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Ms. Kringle
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Thank DOYC for Rantidote. Otherwise, I might be tempted to call my in-laws and give them a piece of my mind.

Mr. K decided to be nice, and send his parents a Christmas card. For those of you who don't know, they are cut off from us as of last year, after a long, drawn out round of nastiness, in which my MIL said that obviously I wasn't giving Mr. K his messages, in order to divert attention away from the fact that they hadn't freaking called us.

Anyway, they have not made contact with us....but they have sent Mr. K's older sister in to act as a flying monkey, and try to tell us how horrible we are, and how we should suck it up and let them treat us like crap, because they're faaaaaamily.

So, that brings us up to date thus far. We received in the mail a Christmas card, with no return address, and both of us immediately recognized Mr. K's mother's handwriting.

The card is one of those overly-glurgy "To My Son And His Family" Christmas cards. I hate sappy, but some people like it, whatever. I ignore it.

Inserted in this card, was a letter from FIL to Mr. K. I'll just touch on the high points.

In the first paragraph is the obligatory, "We Have No Idea Why You Cut Us Off." Yes, yes they do. The last time Mr. K talked to his father, he told him exactly why I refused to speak to them, after the horrible things MIL said about me and the distinct lack of an apology, and Mr. K told him that he was tired of him and his family being treated like second-class citizens by both MIL and FIL, unless they wanted something from us. Mr. K told FIL what needed to change. FIL and MIL don't want to change the dynamic, because if it had stayed as it was, they had a good thing going.

Then, there's of course the cheap guilt trip attempt, "Your Mother Said One Of The Things She Wanted For Christmas Was Her Son Back." No, she wants free labor, free transportation when she needs to go to an airport or a train station, and the ability to prove to her DIL, me, that she is much more important to him than I am.

The letter drones on and on, all about how FIL turned 60 this year, and how he wants a relationship with his son, yadda yadda yadda. Nothing about redressing the wrongs they have done against us, nothing about, "We should apologize to Ms. K, because why should they want to have a relationship with us, if we can't be nice to our son's wife?"

Nope, there's a nice little undercurrent of, "Everything Was FINE Until SHE Came Along."

Mr. K read it, and was furious. He's angry because it's a cheap guilt trip attempt, it's a play of the Death Card, and it's a blatant attempt to bring Mr. K back into line. After all, if I weren't controlling him with my magic vagina, things would be just FINE, now wouldn't they?

Me? I'm annoyed. I really hate bullshit guilt trips. I hate attempts to play the Death Card to bring faaaaaamily back into the fold. And I hate obvious attempts to rewrite history.

This has pretty well set in stone my desire to never see or speak to them again. I have no reason to want to be around people who can't be bothered to be nice to me, when I have been very nice to them, very accommodating to their desires at holidays, and always there when they needed a favor.

Mr. K is pretty well done with them himself. If he had any doubts about why he didn't send them a Christmas present, they're pretty well gone now.

And, I do believe, that may be the end of sending cards for any occasion to them ever again. If this is how they respond, by trying to shift blame so they couldn't possibly know what they did, blah blah blah, regardless of having it explained to them in excruciating detail by their own son? I'm not so sure I'm really all that interested in sending them cards. And I'm thinking Mr. K is right there with me.

So, no need for advice.....just annoyed and ranting on an otherwise lovely Christmas weekend.

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Some people are amazingly dense aren't they? I had a similar thing when my son Ashley was ill. The outlaws thought it was a great idea to bring him his Christmas presents with them when he was on an out patients trip to the Oncology ward. I was so gobsmacked that I couldn't tackle the incident at the time so I sent them a letter explaining how inconsiderate the gesture was. It wasn't a rude letter at all but I haven't heard from them since. They know Ashley died and still nothing from them. If I'm honest, I'm glad not to have the connection with them anymore.
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I have never understood the rationale that your family is entitled to treat you like crap and its ok.

But enough of that. Let's hear more about your magic vagina! Can it levitate? [Big Grin]

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No, but from what I understand, it casts spells on Mr. K, making him do things he couldn't possibly want to do of his own volition, like refuse to speak to the NFBSKs who birthed him.

Mrs. K, I think you should write a book about the adventures of your magic vagina. Because women need a superhero to look up to, too!

Score: Magic Vagina 1 NFBSKers 0

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SiKboy
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It sucks to have to cut family members out of your life, but sometimes its the best thing you can do. This really sounds like one of those times. I also take issue with the attitude some people have that you chould just suck it up when someone in your family does something wrong to you because they are family. The hell with that. Blood may be thicker than water, but its also harder to get out of the carpet. Speaking personally, I've not had any contact with my father in close on a decade. I always say that while you cant choose your family, you can damn sure choose who *isnt* family.

And I was going to ask about your magic vagina, but I wasnt sure if it would be going to far to ask: If you rub it does it grant 3 wishes? [Razz]

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Threads like this are so theraputic. Just when I start to feel all melancholy over my perennial single state, someone reminds me how nice it is not to have any in-laws....

Nonny

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Roadie
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Ah, Ms. K, I can completely sympathize. I have no advice, but apparently your in-laws and mine are related. We haven't spoken to Mr. Roadie's mom/stepdad for, lemmesee, 4 years? Can't remember. Anyway, same situation. Mommy wants control, DH is a big boy and can control himself and he did choose the MV over mommy.

Thankfully, my other in-laws, Mr. Roadie's dad/stepmom, are terrific people who have never treated me like a daughter-in-law, simply a daughter. I love them so!

((hugs)) to you and yours!

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I'm rather grateful, at times like this, that DH's problems with his mother predate our relationship. No way she can blame my magical vagina. Anyway, I think you and your husband are right in cutting off the in-laws. I'm sorry it's that way, because good in-laws really rock. ((hugs))

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Lady Moon
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Good Lord, Mrs Kringle -- are you SURE you're not related to me?

You've just described the cheap shots my DH's family takes at us every now and again. My family isn't as frequent, but they do it too.

I'm so proud of you two for seeing it for what it is. Family is that you're born into WHEN YOU'RE LITTLE. When you're an adult, it's the family you MAKE that's important.

You've been blessed to make a family with a wonderful man. I've been similarly blessed with a wonderful man and a whole PASSEL of sisters and brothers -- not a single one of which was born to my insane family.

Family is who you CHOOSE it to be. And you've made a wonderful choice.

Lady "feeling glurgy" Moon

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Roadie
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quote:
Originally posted by Lady Moon:
Lady "feeling glurgy" Moon

Just goes to show, every thirtieth blue moon, glurge is actually spot on.

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quote:
Score: Magic Vagina 1 NFBSKers 0
I hate to barge in like this, but...er...isn't a Magic Vagina also a NFBSKer? [Wink]

Seriously though, what jerks.

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While I realize it's not exactly the same situation, I've had similar go-rounds with my parents over the subject of my sister.

Just a quick summing-up for those who haven't read it before: My sister is a mentally and emotionally abusive bitch who tried to kill me more than once and contributed to my suicide attempts as a teenager. My parents insist it was just a sibling rivalry I took too seriously.

Anyway, in recent events, my parents tried to use the guilt card to get me to go with them to visit my sister for Christmas. "She's changed a lot since she got married," they say. Well, I don't give a NFBSK how much she's changed; forgiveness may be a great virtue, but it's not free, at least not mine. I want a full apology for how she treated me before I'll have anything to do with her.

[/hijack]

Anyway Ms. K, you're doing exactly the right thing. Have a happy, in-law-free holiday.

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I think we need to add the MV to some kind of In-law Threads Lexicon. It should never be forgotten.

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quote:
Originally posted by LeaflessMapleTree:
quote:
Score: Magic Vagina 1 NFBSKers 0
I hate to barge in like this, but...er...isn't a Magic Vagina also a NFBSKer? [Wink]

Seriously though, what jerks.

You are, of course, correct. But I was addressing the metaphorical properties of each, not the actions. Is this better?

Magical Vagina 1 NFBSKing InLaws 0

My, um, privates must be the counterpoint to Ms. K's: I had problems with having preterm contractions with each baby (they were considered non-productive because I didnt dilate with them, even though they were strong and steady) and one L&D nurse told me that I had "a naughty uterus but a well-behaved vagina."

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quote:
Originally posted by Nonny Mouse, on Santa's laptop:
Threads like this are so theraputic. Just when I start to feel all melancholy over my perennial single state, someone reminds me how nice it is not to have any in-laws....

Nonny

Yes, oh yes. I also find that my periodic attempts at dating clear up any regrets I have about being single. [Wink]

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No contact with my MIL is the one good thing about my current separation from the husband.

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Lady Moon
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quote:
Originally posted by Roadie:
quote:
Originally posted by Lady Moon:
Lady "feeling glurgy" Moon

Just goes to show, every thirtieth blue moon, glurge is actually spot on.
Thank you, Roadie!

I tried to stop it before it glurged all over creation. [lol]

...so now my 14 year old read that and is going through the house yelling "GLURGE!" with the accompanying sounds and motions of someone being violently ill......

Lady "cracking up" Moon

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Ms. Kringle
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Well, the MV cannot levitate, or if it can, I am completely unaware of this little feat of magic that it can do.

According to my in-laws, my magic vagina has the power to make Mr. K abandon his poor aged mother and father (whatever), say nasty, untrue things about their relationship with him (yeah, because it could NEVER be THEIR fault with the nasty things they've said, no, no it must be the magic vagina), and cut off his REAL faaaaaamily so he can play with the magic vagina.

You know, if I could actually do that? There would be a lot of things around here I wouldn't HAVE to do, because I'd use the powers of the Magic Vagina (is that like the Magic Flute, or does this comparison make it COMPLETELY NFBSK?) to get Mr. K and Young Miss K to do all the housework!

Nope, no three wishes if you rub it, either....that's not exactly what happens, no.

I am beginning to swear that we are all related somehow, those of us with in-law problems. Good Lord, you'd think that grown up people wouldn't act that way, but I guess not. No, it seems to be all about playing the blame-shifting game, so they never have to take any responsibility for their crappy relationships with their son, their DIL, their granddaughter, and with quite a few other people. Nope, it can't POSSIBLY be THEIR fault. Noooo, it's everyone else's fault.

They also love to employ the passive-aggressive nastygram method of communication, too. I don't do passive-aggressive. Granted, I can translate it very well, having had lots of practice with various members of my own family, but Jeebus, I don't WANT to have to translate. And then be pissed because I DID figure it out.

My solution? I just refuse to engage them. They know damn good and well what went wrong. Hell, I was sitting in the same room with Mr. K as he discussed this with FIL, Mr. K made sure I was sitting here listening, so there would be no question of what he said to them, and it's just amazing. To read what FIL wrote, it's like there were two different conversations going on. Just NFBSKing amazing. So, if they know what went wrong, and they think they're going to play dumb, and whine? I'm not engaging them at ALL.

*sigh*

Merry NFBSKing Christmas?

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This is why I'm glad my in-laws are a two-day drive from where we live.

Have some sympathy **hugs** and pass the eggnog!

Frog-Mine's not magical, its evil!-Feathers

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quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Kringle
According to my in-laws, my magic vagina has the power to make Mr. K abandon his poor aged mother and father (whatever), say nasty, untrue things about their relationship with him (yeah, because it could NEVER be THEIR fault with the nasty things they've said, no, no it must be the magic vagina), and cut off his REAL faaaaaamily so he can play with the magic vagina.

Am I reading this correctly? Are your in-laws actually suggesting that the only reason Mr. K wants to spend time with you is because you are blessed with a vagina (magic or otherwise?) Do they not believe he can be attracted to you for any other reason (conversation, companionship etc?) and that you possess no other qualities a man could want other than a MV. If so that's a pretty sh*tty thing of them to say IMO.

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Ms. Kringle
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quote:
Originally posted by Eddylizard:
quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Kringle
According to my in-laws, my magic vagina has the power to make Mr. K abandon his poor aged mother and father (whatever), say nasty, untrue things about their relationship with him (yeah, because it could NEVER be THEIR fault with the nasty things they've said, no, no it must be the magic vagina), and cut off his REAL faaaaaamily so he can play with the magic vagina.

Am I reading this correctly? Are your in-laws actually suggesting that the only reason Mr. K wants to spend time with you is because you are blessed with a vagina (magic or otherwise?) Do they not believe he can be attracted to you for any other reason (conversation, companionship etc?) and that you possess no other qualities a man could want other than a MV. If so that's a pretty sh*tty thing of them to say IMO.
Well....not necessarily in so many words.

With them? It's more the "everything was fine until SHE came along, and we know you only do what she says because you want sex" line of thinking.

It IS a pretty shitty thing to say. And if I thought that of my (hypothetical - I have a 12 year old daughter, and no other children) son's wife? I'd be ashamed of myself.

Nope, it can't possibly be because I am an intelligent woman, who offers him companionship, conversation, someone to stand up to him when he's being a bit of a bully, you know, the counterbalance to him. No, it's because I am possessed of a vagina, magic or otherwise. That's the only reason he would want to spend time with me, and that's the only reason he refuses to speak to them.

Couldn't POSSIBLY be because they are selfish, self-centered, people, who think of their son as property, instead of a person in his own right. Or because they refuse to see him as an adult, capable of making his own decisions.

Nope, it's because his wife is possessed of female genitalia.

Welcome to life with my in-laws!

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My wife refused to talk to her mother for almost 2 years. When they finally got back to talking, things were much better. She actually stopped saying horrible things about other members of the family - the reason she was outcast in the first place. Sometimes these things can work out, but I don't see any need to deal with asshats, related or otherwise, who can't even respect the fact that their son loves you. It sounds as if it is their loss.

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I'm not discounting the need for this rant in any way, shape or form, but I did want to thank you for the following earworm which is going to haunt my Christmas...

Muff, the magic vagina
Lives between my thighs,
Controlling men with sinful lust,
Makes them sever family ties...

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Eddylizard
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quote:
Originally posted by Spamamander in a pear tree:
I'm not discounting the need for this rant in any way, shape or form, but I did want to thank you for the following earworm which is going to haunt my Christmas...

Muff, the magic vagina
Lives between my thighs,
Controlling men with sinful lust,
Makes them sever family ties...

Little Mr K'er
Loved that rascally muff
And stayed inside between those thighs
And let it do it's stuff.

But seriously, I sympathise. My parents are the most overbearing, bigoted NFBSKwads going. Please do not approach their house if you are dark skinned, or have any homosexual tendencies. Or in any other way do not conform to their ideals of morality.

When I announced to them that I had met the Mrs. Lizard to be, it was a moment for rejoicing. Then I had to tell them she was a single parent. Light blue touch paper and run.

When the Lizardling was old enough to have language skills, I decided that I really didn't want him around people who would toss around words like 'darkie' 'coon' 'blackie' 'nigger' or 'queer'. If he grows up to be a racist homophobe so be it, but I've tried to teach him to examine the facts and make his own mind up. So I basically cut my parents out of my life, as much as possible, and although I still see them, I try to limit/eliminate his exposure to them. Although I tried to explain the situation to them, I'm sure that in ther minds 'She' was to blame.

When Mrs. L. left me a couple of years ago, their barely disguised glee was a double blow.

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Muff, the magic vagina
Lives between my thighs,
Controlling men with sinful lust,
Makes them sever family ties...

I coughed, choked, and spluttered...but I wasn't drinking anything. You get off lucky this time.

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Zorro
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Virtually every single person posting in this thread owes me a new keyboard. [lol]

Zor "How do I explain the MV to hubby?" ro

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Fun with a 9mm
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quote:
Originally posted by Eddylizard:
"people who would toss around words like 'darkie' 'coon' 'blackie' 'nigger' or 'queer'...When Mrs. L. left me a couple of years ago, their barely disguised glee was a double blow. [/QB]

Wow! Sounds like my ex's parents!
Momma was extremely passive-aggressive and could mortally insult you while making it sound like a compliment. The old man just hated me because I was divorced and a better shot than their baaaaby-boy. [Razz]

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Signora Del Drago
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You guys are evil, wicked, mean and nasty. [lol] I want to ask something soooooooooooo bad, but I don't have the nerve. [Embarrassed] If I send somebody a PM, will somebody ask it and don't tell anybody it's me who wants to know?

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Eddylizard
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quote:
Originally posted by Signora Del Drago, G.R.I.T.S.:
You guys are evil, wicked, mean and nasty. [lol] I want to ask something soooooooooooo bad, but I don't have the nerve. [Embarrassed] If I send somebody a PM, will somebody ask it and don't tell anybody it's me who wants to know?

Go on, I'll bite.

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smackmac
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Reading this thread made me realize that my in-laws could be much much worse...

...and that I wish I had a magic vagina.

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Para
Deck the Malls


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Maybe you should send the in-laws a nice sympathy card, Ms. K? "Our deepest sympathies that you're all such a NFBSKed up NFBSKing bunch of NFBSKers. The tears of a thousand baby puppies couldn't begin to fill the ocean of our sorrow that you cannot see past the end of your own collective nose, and that you cut it off to spite your own face"...

Okay, I didn't suggest that seriously, but I'm always tempted to do something like that to people like this. [lol]

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Ms. Kringle
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quote:
Originally posted by Para:
Maybe you should send the in-laws a nice sympathy card, Ms. K? "Our deepest sympathies that you're all such a NFBSKed up NFBSKing bunch of NFBSKers. The tears of a thousand baby puppies couldn't begin to fill the ocean of our sorrow that you cannot see past the end of your own collective nose, and that you cut it off to spite your own face"...

Okay, I didn't suggest that seriously, but I'm always tempted to do something like that to people like this. [lol]

Considering I spent a half an hour just FUMING, and had my best friend keep all phones away from me so I wouldn't call them while I was supremely pissed off?

Ohhhh, that is SOOOOOOOOOOO tempting.

However? I don't think they'd get it. They've honestly rewritten history in their own little, closed minds, and made it so that I am the Evil Bitch who has put a wedge between The Sainted Parents-In-Law and Their Precious Baby Boy. Not true at all, but that's how they see it.

I could tell them, until I am blue in the face, that their own actions prompted Mr. K's cut-off. They will steadfastly deny any wrongdoing on their part, and will tell me, "Well, it must be because of YOU, and the LIES you've told him about us!"

Nope.

I have refused, especially over the last few years, to get in the middle of Mr. K's relationship with his parents. His Parents = His Problem. He sees them for who and what they are.

*sigh*

Oh, the joys....

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quiltsbypam
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OK, now all of you owe me a new nose. The keyboard is fine, but damn, I was eating grapes...

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Jocko's Jolly
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OK, I'm not condoning such pettiness and if you say I gave you this idea, I'll deny it to my dying breath (and curse your MV on my way down), but you COULD send it anonymously (mail it to someone else to mail even, so that the postmark is not yours)! That way YOU know you sent it but they have no idea....and could never prove it to Mr. K even if they tried!

*evil laugh*

But I never gave you that idea, never!

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ThistleSoftware
Little Sales Drummer Boy


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quote:
Originally posted by Eddylizard:
quote:
Originally posted by Signora Del Drago, G.R.I.T.S.:
You guys are evil, wicked, mean and nasty. [lol] I want to ask something soooooooooooo bad, but I don't have the nerve. [Embarrassed] If I send somebody a PM, will somebody ask it and don't tell anybody it's me who wants to know?

Go on, I'll bite.
SO curious.

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