posted
Lordy. I was writing my post when you posted yours. Excuse the hell outta me. And no, I didn't understand it was indicative of teasing, that's why I asked. Is that wrong?
-------------------- 'I'm the decider... I decide what's best.' Posts: 403 | From: Branson, Missouri | Registered: Nov 2004
| IP: Logged |
-------------------- The salty fragrance of L’EauD’I’mNotDedalus - made entirely of and entirely for sea turtles. Posts: 1983 | From: Chicagoland, IL | Registered: Feb 2005
| IP: Logged |
posted
2ys4u, I hope you can calm down a little. You're only adding to your stress level.
You said, "Defending myself? For a bunch of people on the internet?" Well, apparently the opinions of a bunch of people on the Internet are important to you or you wouldn't post here.
If you are really ys, maybe you will listen to my opinion. If you won't at least consider what I have to say, then maybe you aren't 2ys, after all. I don't think anyone was attacking you. Maybe I'm wrong, but I saw concern. That's what prompted me to post this - concern. And for an unknown person on the Internet. Go figure.
I won't bore you by going over your post point-by-point as you already know what you said. Maybe you didn't make yourself clear, but it looked like to most that you are more concerned about not being able to drink alcohol than you are about having TB. It also appears that you don't celebrate any occasions at all without benefit of alcohol. Then when a few people gave you some well-intentioned input, you got really angry at them and implied that they lack reading comprehension and were just attacking you for no reason. Getting defensive when a person mentions that there might be a possiblity of a problem with alcohol is definitely one sign of alcoholism or of a possiblity of alcoholism. Then there's denial. You've done both in a very short time.
I know a lot about alcoholism. My husband is an alcoholic. He doesn't drink, but he is an alcoholic. His brothers, however, never managed to admit they have a problem, and they live in a bottle. His father was an alcoholic. He committed suicide, probably related to his drinking problem
Alcohol can cause many, many physical problems. You don't need to be taking meds while consuming alcohol to be come jaundiced, etc. By the way, jaundice is a condition which causes the skin and eyeballs to turn yellow and can be caused by hepatitis, which is an inflammation of the liver and can be caused by excessive alcohol consumption. Have you ever heard of cirrhosis of the liver? It's not always caused by excessive alcohol consumption but can be caused by excessive alcohol consumption. Linky
quote:Cirrhosis has many causes. In the United States, chronic alcoholism and hepatitis C are the most common ones.
Yeah, I know it says "chronic alcoholism," but excessive drinking is kin to chronic alcoholism. I think they're cousins.
I do hope you'll take this in the spirit in which it is intended, and that you'll step back and take a long look at your habits and at your situation while you are forced to not drink alcohol. You might find that the people you hang out with are not nearly as interesting when they've been drinking and you haven't.
He'sNotDedalus and others had a good point. Often, young folks will drink just because they can and it's not the most important thing in their fun, but your post led me and others to think otherwise about your situation. For me, it was because of your aforementioned lack of alcohol seeming to be more important to you than your having TB.
Before you say it's none of our business, mine included, you are incorrect about that. You made it our business when you posted it on a public forum.
Most important of all, I hope you take your meds as they were prescribed and that your TB will be cured. Good luck!
ETA: 2ys4u, it's "hon," not "hun." Unless, of course you are referring to Attila and others or are calling someone a savage or a destructive person.
ETAgain because the link didn't work. The new one does. Yay!
-------------------- "This air we're breathing. Oxygen, isn't it?"~I’mNotDedalus, impersonating Vincent D’Onofrio.|"Sometimes trying to communicate can be like walking through a minefield."~wanderwoman "Give people a break. It's not easy doing a life."~Joshua Halberstam Posts: 4020 | From: Oklahoma | Registered: Nov 2005
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by Avril: This one works for me--a poem, not a song, but I'm not much for music:
What lips my lips have kissed, and where, and why, I have forgotten, and what arms have lain Under my head till morning; but the rain Is full of ghosts tonight, that tap and sigh Upon the glass and listen for reply, And in my heart there stirs a quiet pain For unremembered lads that not again Will turn to me at midnight with a cry.
Thus in winter stands the lonely tree, Nor knows what birds have vanished one by one, Yet knows its boughs more silent than before: I cannot say what loves have come and gone, I only know that summer sang in me A little while, that in me sings no more.
-- Edna St. Vincent Millay
Hope you feel better soon.
Avril
Actually, it is a song. I think it is one of the Millay poems that Ephram Zimbalist, Sr. set to music. (Yes, Stephanie Zimbalist's grandfather; he was, in case you didn't know it, a very talented violinist and composer.)
-------------------- "The bicycle is the most civilized conveyance known to man. Other forms of transport grow daily more nightmarish. Only the bicycle remains pure in heart."--Iris Murdoch Posts: 3307 | From: Charleston, WV | Registered: Oct 2002
| IP: Logged |
posted
Just talking to the ex (god I hate saying that) for more or less the first time since we broke up two months ago.
Even though he was the most important person in my life, and I loved him with all my vulnerable heart, and the end of our relationship devastated me, I get the impression from him that he's really just not that bothered and our relationship, and the end of it, didn't make any difference to him.
This reminded why we DID break up! That's fair enough, I guess, two people have to care to make it a relationship, and it's definitely the right thing for us to not be together when I was the only one who cared.
Basically, I'm still having a pity party for me - anyone who wants can come. Bring your own problems and lots of hard liquor (I'm sorry tee-totallers, this is my thread and there is alcohol abuse in it!!), and I hope someone will have sex with me soon. (Same to the chaste)
-------------------- If you don't cry it isn't love If you don't cry then you just don't feel it deep enough Posts: 238 | From: Ireland | Registered: Jan 2006
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by remigo: Basically, I'm still having a pity party for me - anyone who wants can come. Bring your own problems and lots of hard liquor (I'm sorry tee-totallers, this is my thread and there is alcohol abuse in it!!), and I hope someone will have sex with me soon. (Same to the chaste)
When I was at uni I used to find that the hard liquor and the sex went together quite well - two birds with one stone and all that? Of course the hangover and the "who the hell are you?" weren't quite so great
Sorry you had a difficult conversation with your ex. That's difficult in terms of realisations rather than necessarily the conversation itself. Have a {{hug}} from me and if I still had a booze stash you would be free to help yourself. I have merlot grape juice but that might not be what you're looking for right now.
posted
It seems that I'm coming to the party a little late, but . . .
I've been there. It burns you to the bone. I know. Such feelings will jump out and attack you at the drop of a hat, anywhere and anytime. Only time can heal your wounds. The hardest thing is to stop looking back, but it WILL happen.
I think my sig line fits perfectly here.
Best of luck to you.
-------------------- It can't rain all the time. Posts: 1102 | From: Iowa | Registered: Oct 2004
| IP: Logged |
posted
No, RelicMan, don't you know what country in which you're a Lord! It's Ireland and it CAN rain all the time!
[/back to misery]
-------------------- If you don't cry it isn't love If you don't cry then you just don't feel it deep enough Posts: 238 | From: Ireland | Registered: Jan 2006
| IP: Logged |
posted
Hey Remigo - I think having a reminder of why you dumped the lout can be a blessing - small confort, but sometimes small conforts can get us through.
Hugs for you! Now I'll duck out before my marital bliss ruins the pity party... but I did bring this bottle of vodka for you guys.
(ducks out)
-------------------- If you say you love ice cream, you better be dreaming of an orgy with Ben, Jerry, and one fine-ass chunky monkey.
-- My sister and poet extraordinaire, Joanna Hoffman Posts: 1475 | From: Los Angeles, CA | Registered: Jan 2006
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by remigo: Basically, I'm still having a pity party for me - anyone who wants can come. Bring your own problems and lots of hard liquor (I'm sorry tee-totallers, this is my thread and there is alcohol abuse in it!!), and I hope someone will have sex with me soon. (Same to the chaste)
My kind of party.
Hope you have a better weekend than the last few.
Posts: 130 | From: Kingdom of Northumbria | Registered: Jan 2005
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by bthyb: Hey Remigo - I think having a reminder of why you dumped the lout can be a blessing - small confort, but sometimes small conforts can get us through.
Yeah, I think you're right. Of course, I did weep pathetically for an hour last night, but then 2 of my friends called over for tea and chats and I was able to totally hold it together. Definite progress.
quote:Originally posted by bthyb: Hugs for you! Now I'll duck out before my marital bliss ruins the pity party... but I did bring this bottle of vodka for you guys.
(ducks out)
Thank you! Virtual vodka is the best kind - no hangover!
-------------------- If you don't cry it isn't love If you don't cry then you just don't feel it deep enough Posts: 238 | From: Ireland | Registered: Jan 2006
| IP: Logged |
UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!
Printer-friendly view of this topic
![[Wink]](wink.gif)
![[lol]](graemlins/lol.gif)
![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
![[Smile]](smile.gif)
