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Christie
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Ugh, just got off the phone with a "friend" of mine who had the nerve to call to tell me off for not letting them know my husband was back in town week before last. Um, yeah, ok. I haven't heard from this woman in months and suddenly I'm supposed to make sure I call and schedule some time with them during the short short week when my husband is back? I really don't think so. But, gee, thanks for calling me up and trying to ruin my Sunday evening by guilting me out.

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Purple Iguana
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One word... TROUBLEMAKER. Don't let her get to you.

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Menolly
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Christie, I'd make sure to give her a call to have her over...the next time you are packing. Then she can visit you and pack. Win-win. [Cool]

Seriously, what a toad!

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Ramblin' Dave, quietly making noise
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My response to such things is to send mind-numbingly boring e-mails, detailing absolutely everything I do in a given day, including not only what I had for lunch but what the friends I ate with had as well, and maybe the color of the clothes they were wearing. It doesn't usually get the point across (honestly, does anything do that with people like that?), but it always makes me feel quite a bit better.

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Christie
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Ooh I like the way your minds work [Big Grin] .

What has me really ticked off is that it's pretty clear she doesn't want to socialize with *me*. I'm only worthy of her time when I'm part of a couple. Sheesh. Doesn't that just make you feel all warm and wanted? Not.

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Menolly
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Well, great! More people, more boxes to be filled. Wild thought: send all the emails, then ask her over. Commence with asking 'did you get my email about?' and recap every boring detail.

Make sure the first visit includes the most difficult things to pack. I have a feeling she won't be so involved after the first packing session.

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Ms. Kringle
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quote:
Originally posted by Christie:
Ooh I like the way your minds work [Big Grin] .

What has me really ticked off is that it's pretty clear she doesn't want to socialize with *me*. I'm only worthy of her time when I'm part of a couple. Sheesh. Doesn't that just make you feel all warm and wanted? Not.

Oooooh, that annoys me EVEN MORE.

Seriously, it does.

That's just so flaming rude, I mean, if I had a friend-couple, and the Mr. part of the couple was away on business? I'd be calling the Mrs. part of the couple to see if she wanted to go for coffee, or to lunch, or just hang and talk.

To only call you and be interested in hanging with you when you're part of a couple? Oh hell no, that's so bloody rude.

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Seaboe Muffinchucker
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quote:
Originally posted by Christie:
Ugh, just got off the phone with a "friend" of mine who had the nerve to call to tell me off for not letting them know my husband was back in town week before last.

Christie, you're just too nice. I'm sitting here trying to figure out why you didn't respond "and what business is that of yours?"

I mean, husband back after weeks away? Why would you want to socialize with anyone other than your family? All NFBSK aside, even. [Wink]

Seaboe

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Lainie
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"Gee, I would have called you, but he was only here a week, and every minute he wasn't with the kids, we were NFBSKing."

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Bingo! I mean, come on, my dad was in the Navy and we kids learned at a very early age that when he came home, we'd get the requisite hugs and give him updates and get prezzies and then he and Mom mysteriously disappeared into their bedroom for a while (we also learned at an early age that closed doors meant knock and wait for permision to enter) and we kids were encouraged to play with our new toys or watch TV or something....they were "unpacking his suitcase." [Wink]

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BeowulfGirl
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I'm only worthy of her time when I'm part of a couple.
Oh, Christie, I understand. When I got divorced, I lost about 75% of my "friends" who either couldn't handle me without my ex-husband as a buffer (I'm "too intense"), or couldn't bring themselves to be social with me on my own (I threaten the "couple continuity.") Either way, I found out who my real friends were really fast. [Frown]

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Little Pink Pill
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"Hmm, you know, I guess if he would have wanted you to know he was in town, he would have told you HIMSELF."

Sheesh, what does she think you are, his social secretary? Because she's treating you a lot more like office help than a real friend. I'd drop that one pretty quick.

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vicious
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And you need this person in your life why exactly ???

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Canuckistan
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My boss gave me a great idea for dealing with such people.

When they do something like this, show them a red card and send them off. Less egregious infractions can be dealt with using a yellow card. But two of those is enough for a sendoff.

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Christie
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quote:
Originally posted by Lainie:
"Gee, I would have called you, but he was only here a week, and every minute he wasn't with the kids, we were NFBSKing."

[lol] As the parents of older teens we've finally figured out why parents start pushing their kids out the door (which, when the kids were younger I just could not understand). Now I understand. Older teens/young adults Do Not Sleep. They are awake long after we go to bed. Did I mention our bedroom is right over the family room?

Let's just say if we want to, ahem, have a full and happy marriage [Wink] , the sooner I move over to England OR our kids move out, the better.

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I'm only worthy of her time when I'm part of a couple.
Oh, Christie, I understand. When I got divorced, I lost about 75% of my "friends" who either couldn't handle me without my ex-husband as a buffer (I'm "too intense"), or couldn't bring themselves to be social with me on my own (I threaten the "couple continuity.") Either way, I found out who my real friends were really fast. [Frown]
I've definitely found that as well, and not just with this particular woman. This experience is giving me a little taste of what life can be like for divorced or widowed women. I wonder if the same thing happens to men?

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Menolly
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I'm sure it does, for the ones who are hanging onto the couples' friendship because they really only like the female.

Two things: first, I'm thinking of that James Taylor song with lyrics of "she gets the house with the garden, he gets the boys in the band." Anybody know the name of that song? I can't get anything from looking through lyrics for 10 minutes... Another thought, I hope we never get divorced. DH's best friend is married to my best friend. That would be dicey, at best.

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