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cubbie
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I'm not sure where to put this, but I guess it sort of falls under a rant.

My eldest brother (lets call him M) is getting married in October to a girl that he's been dating for at least 2 years (they've known each other longer, since they worked together when they first met). Everyone in the family is excited about it. she is a really nice girl and everyone loves her son. We've been planning this wedding for about a year by the time the wedding is all done and over with.

Anyway, here's the problem. My 3rd oldest brother(he'll be called S), will probably cause a big problem. See he got married last August to a girl he only knew for 3 months and met at the mental ward when he was having one of his episodes (he's bipolar and has phsycosis). After dating for 3 months, they decided to get married (this was about early July), and told everyone that it was going to be the first week of August. So we didn't have alot of time to do a really nice wedding for him. Plus her side of the family didn't even help with the wedding (I guess her family was really messed up).

What I'm worried about is S is going to start throwing fits about M's wedding being better than his, even though we did try our best with his, S's, wedding with such sort notice. Plus with M's wedding, the bride's parents are helping out alot. With S's mental disorters, its hard for him to understand that we tried our best for him. (He does this alot, he always go on about how this sibling gets more things or money than he does, etc). [flame] I just dont want M's wedding to be ruined because of S being jealous.

any advice?

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no advice but i am sending good vibes. good luck.

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Well I wouldn't say anything at first, and just hope all goes well. But if S does get jealous and makes a fuss before the wedding, someone should sit him down (metaphorically) and explain the whole situation to him. How old is he, by the way? Hopefully he'll understand. If not, then at the very least he might agree to have the decency not to say anything while the wedding is going on.

*vibes* from me, too.

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cubbie
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S is 23. We can try to talk to him about it. He'll probably be able to keep his mouth shut during the wedding, but I'm not sure about the reception, especailly if no one is paying attention to how much he's drinking (he has a drinking problem and I believe they plan to have an open bar).

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LeaflessMapleTree
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Perhaps if he starts making noise about unfairness, someone should watch his drinking.

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cubbie
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Luckly brother number 4's girlfriend will be doing the bar for this wedding, so it may not be a problem, hopefully.

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Miles Invictus
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If he has a drinking problem, it might not be a bad idea to keep him from the bar in the first place. Nothing overt, mind you, but you might be able to keep him busy enough that he can't get away for more than a drink at a time. With luck, that'll let him keep control of himself long enough to prevent any antisocial behavior from dominating the event.
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