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Robofication, Lightly Roasted
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Disclaimer: I'm feeling awful. I have a mental disease. It is affecting me. It may seem I'm whining, but I just can't "buck up" and feel better. So save the pep talks.


NFBSKing Anxiety. The palpitating heart. The shyness. The constant worry, the avoidance of any human contact.

NFBSKing Depression. NFBSKing wanting to curl up and forget the world, to grab a bottle, to drink away the part of the day I'm awake.

NFBSKing urge to self-destruct. NFBSK urge to die. To escape and be nothing. NFBSK those I leave behind. I have a $50,000 life insurance policy out in my SO's name.

She'll get the money, get rid of me, and the world will be a better place.

I hate myself. I hate this world. I hate staring in the mirror each day and see the bastard I am staring back, the worthless, lethargic, overweight, moron with 3 degrees writing synopsis for a porno factory.

I hate going to interviews only to be turned down because I don't have a portfolio. You want my damn portfolio? Here it is. Nothing but NFBSKing smut...nothing but crap. Depressing, going into each day knowing I'm peddling a vice, seeing the women's faces knowing they don't want to be doing what they're doing, but having to market it anyway in order to get my drugs, to live off the misery of others.

Today, driving into work, I saw a man standing on top of a billboard. I don't know why he was up there. Perhaps changing the ad. And I imagined myself up there, in his place, the sun pouring over the horizon, quicksilver, illuminating me, and a smile on my face as I fell, the last thought to shooting across my neurons...."I wonder how long it will take to replace me."

NFBSK this world.

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Not a pep talk, but have you seen a therapist?

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Robofication, Lightly Roasted
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I've seen therapists since I was friggin' 8. They never work.

They use Cognitive Therapy on me which, although helpful for many people, merely pisses me off and causes me to play games with the Therapist.

I had one I loved where I used to live. But I moved.

I'm seeing a psychiatrist. I'm on 6 forms of medication. Whoopee.

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Normally, I hate when people try and say "I know how you feel", but from what we've talked about, you know I'm not just BSing when I say that I have a pretty good idea of how you feel.

Go take a hot shower. Rent a movie. Pop some popcorn (seriously, force yourself to eat at least something). Just anything mind-numbing. It helps.

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Sorry to hear that you're going through this. It sounds like it really sucks.

I'm sending caring vibes your way, I hope you can feel them. Feel free to PM me and vent, if that will help.

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As someone who was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder when I was 18 I know exactly how you feel.

The only thing that I can suggest is talking with people you trust, not necessarily a therapist since they are there to help you "fix" the problem instead of just listening. I do echo Nocturnal Goddess: Sickly Sweet in forcing yourself to do things that you would normally do if you were feeling more like yourself.

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As I was reading the beginning of your post I was thinking, "yeah, I've been there, too", but as I read on I realized that wasn't so true. There are two things I do when I feel like shit, though. One is to go for a nice long walk through a part of the city that I've never seen before. It doesn't have to be anywhere special, just pick a residential neighbourhood you've never walked through before and just walk for an hour or so and try to get lost in the moment.

In addition, you can try singing your favourite songs at the top of your lungs ( if you're shy about it...then you can do it where no one can hear you).

I find that both at least temporarily relieve anxiety and stress. I hope you find something that helps [Smile]

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quote:
Originally posted by Robofication, Lightly Roasted:
I'm seeing a psychiatrist. I'm on 6 forms of medication. Whoopee.

If you aren't better on the meds than you were off them, consider at least a partial med wash. Depending on what meds you are taking, they can be contributing to your problem.

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Robofication, Lightly Roasted
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My psych says do push-ups, clean the toliet, pick lint off of shirts.

Anything you hate and is mindless. Pointless labor.

It does work...but only for a spell.

And my meds work. They're not a one shot "happy" pill. Today is just a bad day.

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No pep talk here because I know it won't help, but, I agree with Sara. See if your doctor will reevaluate your meds. I don't know that much about them, but I do know my husband suffers from clinical depression and needs to keep an eye on his meds. Good luck.

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Robofication, I would bet everyone on these boards would like to help, but the sorry fact of it is what you describe is far beyond any of our abilities to render assistance. You need to be turning to your therapist immediately rather than posting here. And that is "immediately" as in "tonight."

You are considering killing yourself. We can't help you turn that around. But your therapist can. Get to him or her, and do it now.

This is not the place for you. Your therapist's office is.

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quote:
Originally posted by Barbara:
Robofication, I would bet everyone on these boards would like to help, but the sorry fact of it is what you describe is far beyond any of our abilities to render assistance. You need to be turning to your therapist immediately rather than posting here. And that is "immediately" as in "tonight."

You are considering killing yourself. We can't help you turn that around. But your therapist can. Get to him or her, and do it now.

This is not the place for you. Your therapist's office is.

While I understand your concern, from my talking to him, I don't think he ment he was actually *concidering* suicide. I get the same way. It's more like a wondering of how long it would take for life to go on without you. And you can hate the world without wanting to leave it.

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quote:
Originally posted by Nocturnal Goddess: Sickly Sweet:
While I understand your concern, from my talking to him, I don't think he ment he was actually *concidering* suicide.

He wrote this in the opening post on this thread:

quote:
Today, driving into work, I saw a man standing on top of a billboard. I don't know why he was up there. Perhaps changing the ad. And I imagined myself up there, in his place, the sun pouring over the horizon, quicksilver, illuminating me, and a smile on my face as I fell, the last thought to shooting across my neurons...."I wonder how long it will take to replace me."
From that, he's either a drama queen using the boards to get his fix or is seriously weighing up the taking of his own life. Either way, he doesn't belong here.
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The only advice I feel comfortable giving to someone in a situation like this is to seek professional help now. This is too far gone to be gambled on amateur internet advice. It's not too far gone to get the help you need, but you'll have to act and seek help NOW.

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Robofication, Lightly Roasted
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quote:
Originally posted by Barbara:
quote:
Originally posted by Nocturnal Goddess: Sickly Sweet:
While I understand your concern, from my talking to him, I don't think he ment he was actually *concidering* suicide.

He wrote this in the opening post on this thread:

quote:
Today, driving into work, I saw a man standing on top of a billboard. I don't know why he was up there. Perhaps changing the ad. And I imagined myself up there, in his place, the sun pouring over the horizon, quicksilver, illuminating me, and a smile on my face as I fell, the last thought to shooting across my neurons...."I wonder how long it will take to replace me."
From that, he's either a drama queen using the boards to get his fix or is seriously weighing up the taking of his own life. Either way, he doesn't belong here.

Wow Barbara. Deep insight.

Drama queen or weighing up taking my life.

Thanks for the subpar psychoanalysis (which has been proven to be a very bad method of psychology by the way; psychoanalysis sticks to abstracts like critical theory and cultural analysis). I'll stick with the professionals if you don't mind...

I was ranting, getting it off my chest. In no way was I saying "I'M GOINGS TO KILL MYSELF." Believe me, I've been there, and the last thing I'd do is post to the Snopes message board.

No, I was ranting. Ranting about what my brain does to me.

But then again, I'm a drama queen...and shouldn't be here.

Gee, and after that nice form letter I got from you after my donation.

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Robofication, Lightly Roasted
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Another thing.

How does

quote:
Today, driving into work, I saw a man standing on top of a billboard. I don't know why he was up there. Perhaps changing the ad. And I imagined myself up there, in his place, the sun pouring over the horizon, quicksilver, illuminating me, and a smile on my face as I fell, the last thought to shooting across my neurons...."I wonder how long it will take to replace me."
corrolate into an actual suicidal action? I was describing a thought I had when driving to work.

Did I act on this thought? I'm typing this aren't I?

Did I say anything about killing myself? I don't believe so. Just that I'm depressed and wanted to sleep (or drink) away the day. Am I doing that? No.

So I get called drama queen. Insulting at the least, degrading at best.

People bitch and moan about their children, their families, their status in life, being evicted, money problems, etc, etc here. How is this different than letting out how it feels to feel this way?

No, you jump to the conclusion I have a razor at my wrist, pills in my hand, gun to my head. It's insulting.

Express the weight of handling an abusive husband and you get sympathy. Express the debilitating effects of Depression, Anxiety, and Manias and you get called a Drama Queen or get told to jet off to the therapists office.

Christ...could you get more demeaning?

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Robofication, that was a really snarky, sarcastic post that you directed at Barbara. Your OP did give the impression that you were considering suicide.

Edited to add: Apparently we were posting at the same time. Why did your post appear to be about suicide? Well, you set up a pretty clear "connect the dots" correlation: man on top of billboard and thoughts about death/being replaced. Then the "life sucks" mantra. And why is your post being read as either a "he's seriously troubled" or "he's a drama queen" post? Well, because Barbara has seen these boards from the beginning, and your post fits the profile of a lot of other dark and melodramatic posts, most of which fit neatly into one of the two categories.

I'm sorry that you're depressed. I started a thread (last year?) where I got really depressed about the state of humanity in general and realized during the course of the thread that I needed to take a break from the board for a while and to reinvest in my own life and outlook. Some very nice people pointed out to me that they couldn't solve my problems over the Internet and that my frustration seemed serious.

It might help if you allowed yourself to read your posts from a different point of view, and even to consider that other people might see warning signs that you're not recognizing.

And, honestly, if you want any sympathy, cut the sarcasm. It's a fairly pathetic defense mechanism (my own "subpar psychoanalysis").

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quote:
Originally posted by Robofication, Lightly Roasted:

Express the weight of handling an abusive husband and you get sympathy. Express the debilitating effects of Depression, Anxiety, and Manias and you get called a Drama Queen or get told to jet off to the therapists office.

Christ...could you get more demeaning?

No, express the weight of handling an abusive husband, and you get told to jet off to the therapist's office, because while people here have been through it, none of them can offer direct help except in extremely rare circumstances.

Besides, you did tell us to "save the pep talks." So what do you want? If you don't want attention, a private journal would be a much better place for you than a message board.

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quote:
Originally posted by Minstrel with cherries on top:
quote:
Originally posted by Robofication, Lightly Roasted:

Express the weight of handling an abusive husband and you get sympathy. Express the debilitating effects of Depression, Anxiety, and Manias and you get called a Drama Queen or get told to jet off to the therapists office.

Christ...could you get more demeaning?

No, express the weight of handling an abusive husband, and you get told to jet off to the therapist's office, because while people here have been through it, none of them can offer direct help except in extremely rare circumstances.

Besides, you did tell us to "save the pep talks." So what do you want? If you don't want attention, a private journal would be a much better place for you than a message board.

Wanting understanding ears isn't the same thing as wanting attention, though. People get upset. They vent.

Pep talks don't do anything for MI, other than annoy, usually.

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quote:
Originally posted by Robofication, Lightly Roasted:
NFBSKing urge to self-destruct. NFBSK urge to die. To escape and be nothing. NFBSK those I leave behind. I have a $50,000 life insurance policy out in my SO's name.

She'll get the money, get rid of me, and the world will be a better place.


Are you saying we're at fault for having interpreted that as a death fantasy? It is. Death fantasy coupled with depression = potential indicator of suicidal activity. Posted on a public message board, that's fairly interpreted as a "cry for help." Which this board is not the right venue for.

As others have said, if it was just a poorly written bit of venting, broadcasting unintentional meanings, the appropriate response would have been to edit it or otherwise apologize for giving the wrong impression -- not to jump down people's throats for being perfectly reasonable readers of your own words.

--Logoboros

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One other thing:

It is fair to vent. That's a function of Rantidote. But if your venting is really going to be so hyperbolic, why should we take it seriously? Why should we even bother trying to be "understanding ears"? We can't take what you say literally, so what are we supposed to do with it?

--Logoboros

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quote:
Originally posted by Logoboros:
quote:
Originally posted by Robofication, Lightly Roasted:
NFBSKing urge to self-destruct. NFBSK urge to die. To escape and be nothing. NFBSK those I leave behind. I have a $50,000 life insurance policy out in my SO's name.

She'll get the money, get rid of me, and the world will be a better place.


Are you saying we're at fault for having interpreted that as a death fantasy? It is. Death fantasy coupled with depression = potential indicator of suicidal activity. Posted on a public message board, that's fairly interpreted as a "cry for help." Which this board is not the right venue for.

As others have said, if it was just a poorly written bit of venting, broadcasting unintentional meanings, the appropriate response would have been to edit it or otherwise apologize for giving the wrong impression -- not to jump down people's throats for being perfectly reasonable readers of your own words.

--Logoboros

While I appreciate what you're saying, I have to point out that depression = not totally rational. You're faulting him for exactly the thing he's venting about.

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So, we're back to the fact that the OP is not totally rational and is, possibly, posting a cry for help in a forum unequipped to provide it.
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quote:
Originally posted by Logoboros:
One other thing:

It is fair to vent. That's a function of Rantidote. But if your venting is really going to be so hyperbolic, why should we take it seriously? Why should we even bother trying to be "understanding ears"? We can't take what you say literally, so what are we supposed to do with it?

--Logoboros

I suppose either find that you can relate, or not feel a need to post. I'm not trying to be so diagreeable, and I do appologize, it's just that I can relate to the OP, so I'm relating my experiance, only my current mood is more level, so I *can* realize everything everyone else is saying. That's all.

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quote:
Originally posted by Arrow-Tech IV:
So, we're back to the fact that the OP is not totally rational and is, possibly, posting a cry for help in a forum unequipped to provide it.

But any level of emotion, high or low, can reduce rationality. That doesn't necessarily mean cry-for-help level.

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Suppose that he's just hyperbolic. Suppose that we ignore the obvious suicide reference and just post "I'm so sad that you're depressed" posts.

When we're finished commiserating, do we also ignore the sarcasm that the OP broadcasts like a sine wave through his writing? Do we pretend that the OP has the ability to step back and see himself and his writing through a more objective viewpoint? Do we accept his angry sarcasm when it's directed at Barbara, someone who consistently, IMHO offers well-thought-out advice and who has the experience of watching thousands of snopesters' interactions and seeing how this site has evolved from its early days?

No. This is RANTIDOTE. If you come here, you get to rant, but other people also get to analyze your "problem" and comment as they see fit. IMO, after thinking about your post, there do seem to be more than two possible camps that Robofication could fall into. The first two were identified by Barbara:

A. Seriously troubled (needing professional help), or
B. Drama Queen

The third possibility is one I didn't delve into earlier, because I'd prefer to believe that he's troubled before I believed that Robofication is

C. Just a Jerk.

I feel bad that Robofication seems so negative and anxious. If I wrote ONLINE about jumping off a billboard and falling to my death, I hope that people would direct me to a good psychiatrist and maybe advise some sort of life-course reevaluation. So, that's what I advise. I'm going to hope that Robofication is A instead of B or C.

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This thread just shows how justified I was in completely ceasing to post instead of actually talking about how I feel.

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I also feel the same way Molasses Cellany. But I do want to say however Robofication I am sure is still reading these posts and I feel that if he is in serious need of help, maybe we do need to be causious as to their content. I know it is an open board please do not get angry, some of us understand and we may not be helping a serious situation. [Frown]

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Express the weight of handling an abusive husband and you get sympathy. Express the debilitating effects of Depression, Anxiety, and Manias and you get called a Drama Queen or get told to jet off to the therapists office.

Christ...could you get more demeaning?

Your original post made a quite clear impression that you had really hit an emotional rock bottom and it was a pretty scary read. Seeking help is the proper advice.

Frankly, you don't come off as completely in control of yourself in the following posts either. To me, it's like the classical lashing out at people trying to help. We want to help, and the help we can give you is to advice you to seek proper help.

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Express the weight of handling an abusive husband and you get sympathy. Express the debilitating effects of Depression, Anxiety, and Manias and you get called a Drama Queen or get told to jet off to the therapists office.

Christ...could you get more demeaning?

Your original post made a quite clear impression that you had really hit an emotional rock bottom and it was a pretty scary read. Seeking help is the proper advice.

Frankly, you don't come off as completely in control of yourself in the following posts either. To me, it's like the classical lashing out at people trying to help. We want to help, and the help we can give you is to advice you to seek proper help.

Or he's having a bad day. He's on medicine, he's in therapy. Not much else to do except seek solace in knowing that you're not the only one going through stuff like this. Treatment doesn't equate to perfect. It doesn't mean he's not going to feel down. This is a public board with a diverce crowd reading it. Posting what he really feels here is a good way to reach others with anxiety, bipolar, etc. Telling him what he already knows (the need to see his therapist) or brushing his very real emotions off as attention seeking is demeaning.

And saying "well, either you're a drama-queen, or you're really suicidal, seek help" is, IMO, completely irresponcible, as evidanced by subsequent posts being quite angry and upset, more so than the OP. It's not helpful, it's rude, and he has every right to feel upset about it.

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Irresponsible would be to offer support and not reccomend he speak to his therapist.

Coming here to vent is fine, as everyone knows. But one should remember that venting on a public board will open the topic up for comment. And not all the comments are what you may want to hear that day. Snopes is an environment of harsh reality, if all he wanted was a vibe request, he should have asked for it.

Barbara offered sound advice. If a bipolar person is feeling this upset, seeking their therapist is a damn good thing to do. Even if it's just to give the therapist an idea that they are still having days that are this bad. The advice wasn't demeaning in the least. And Robo's over the top response shows that he's not stable right now. The vague suicidal thoughts/threats are another good sign. If he's this unstable, the best place for him is a therapist's office, not on a message board.

There are many Snopesters who have various mental conditions, and many of us understand where Robo is coming from right now. We also understand that this place, while wonderful, can't help him right now.

So, there are 2 real possibilities here. Either Robo is in a place this unstable, and should talk to his therapist to let them know that his meds have taken a hiccup today, or he wants unabashed sympathy from the Snopes community.

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Saying that he should talk to his therapist is fine. Adding the "or maybe you're a drama queen" part is not. *I* know that she wasn't actually calling him a drama queen, but you have to remember that someone who is not 100% emotionally is not going to assume the best, they're going to assume the worst.

And until he can talk to his therapist, what's wrong with posting here? There are other members, like you said, with MI, who know where hes coming from and can offer advice to get him by until he sees his therapist. Suggesting that he go for a walk or take a shower. That kind of stuff.

He's pretty damn brave for posting all this, too. I've considered writing rantidotes like this, but I've been afraid of getting these exact kinds of responces. Turns out my fears were right.

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My question about whether he'd seen a therapist was not meant to be demeaning. I have worked a suicide hotline, and this post danced on that line. Since he demanded "no pep talks", and I haven't a physical address to which I could send mental health professionals, I asked about therapy. I figured anything else I tried would be deemed a pep talk. However, the vitriolic response I received, coupled with NG's seeming understanding of the symptomology, led me to believe I'd done what I could and there were others more capable of helping him.

Barbara's response was harsh - but correct, IMHO. If you are in need of MH services for a MH disorder, snopes ain't it. If you aren't in need of MH assistance, then why the drama?

And yes, NG, he was pretty brave to post this. But I don't think he'd get a much different reaction if he did this in a group of people in RL. What else could he expect?

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Hostility, aggression, suicidal (and homicidal) ideation, mood swings, anger, anxiety and irratibility are psychiatric adverse reactions to many psychotropic drugs. I would bet the farm Robofication is taking more than one of them.....and then other medications to counter those reactions (which doesn't work).

No amount of talk therapy will reverse those reactions either.

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The Drama Queen thing wasn't brought up until Robo had a hissy fit and got all snarky about Barbra's advice.

The only response Robo got from the OP was to see his therapist, and do it ASAP. If he just wanted to vent about feeling like hell or about how his disorders have gotten him down, he shouldn't have put the 2 different references to suicide in the post.

Suicide references online amount to drama queen behavior, as no one here knows Robo, where he lives or anything personal about him, there is no way for us to help him. So, it's a cry for attention, since no one here can help.

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