quote:Midget is simply a derogatory term for someone with dwarfism, or someone of small stature. There is no difference between a midget and a dwarf, a dwarf is someone with dwarfism, and midget is just another term used to describe someone with dwarfism.
But that isn't true. Yes, the word "midget" is sometimes used in a derogatory sense, but (as already noted) it's also commonly used in a non-derogatory sense to distinguish normally-proportioned dwarfs:
quote:A dwarf is someone checked in growth or stunted, or in some way not normally formed. A midget (not in technical use) is someone perfect in form and normal in function, but diminutive.
quote:Originally posted by Egg Note: I find women in sweaty sports gear like the ones worn for soccer, tennis, and such a big turn on than I care to admit. What gets to me however is the smell from the sweat. I don't know why, but it's like the best thing ever to me.
I know just what you're talking about. For me, it's only longtime lovers that I'm comfortable with, that I know shower regularly. Because, while I like sweat, I like it fresh. *L* I use to be so turned on by my ex's sweat that I'd lick and nuzzle his arm pits during lovemaking sessions. It's pretty odd to most people, I imagine, but if you're turned on by the smell of sweat, it's one heap of a turn on.
*whew*
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In re sweat: I seem to recall reading some years back about a study done to see what scent was most attractive to women. The methodology involved spraying seats in a theater with assorted fragrances, and then seeing which seats were more often selected by women arriving singly.
The winner: male perspiration.
Of course, described like that, the methodology seems to have any number of confounding factors, and for all I know the whole thing is a UL anyway....but it's something worth noting.
(And I would agree with tagurit, there's a definite difference between "clean" sweat -- someone working up a bit of perspiration after having recently bathed and put on clean clothes -- and the smell of someone who just hasn't showered or changed shirts for a week...)
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quote:Originally posted by snopes: But that isn't true. Yes, the word "midget" is sometimes used in a derogatory sense, but (as already noted) it's also commonly used in a non-derogatory sense to distinguish normally-proportioned dwarfs:
quote:A dwarf is someone checked in growth or stunted, or in some way not normally formed. A midget (not in technical use) is someone perfect in form and normal in function, but diminutive.
- snopes
I don't know how commonly the term midget is used in a non-derogatory sense, but LPA (Little People of America) mentions the use of the term on it's website's FAQ
quote:Q: What is a midget?
A: In some circles, a midget is the term used for a proportionate dwarf. However, the term has fallen into disfavor and is considered offensive by most people of short stature. The term dates back to 1865, the height of the "freak show" era, and was generally applied only to short-statured persons who were displayed for public amusement, which is why it is considered so unacceptable today.
Although the term "midget" is described in the dictionary as you mentioned, my issue is with using the term in a way that midget and dwarf are implied as being two completely different things. The "dwarf or midget" question isn't a valid one, whether it's offensive or not when you take into consideration that nearly all people whom would be called "midgets" would have some type of dwarfism, and therefore be dwarfs. I even think that pituitary conditions, the type which are very likely to lead to proportional smallness, are considered to be a type of dwarfism as well.
Am I making sense? Because I'm trying to, but I think I'm failing.
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Going back to some of my beloved "freaks" (itself a term fallen from favour) and medical curiosities books, "midget" was applied to pituitary dwarf while "dwarf" was applied to those with achondroplasia and related conditions.
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I guess what I'm trying to say is that someone being described using the term midget, is also a dwarf, so they can't be a midget OR a dwarf. They are a particular type of dwarf which some people would refer to as a midget, it's not an either/or sort of a thing.
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looks-wise, I like long long long hair, the longer the better. piercings, tattoos, and odd color hair (hell, look at my pics, it's not just on other people I like them.) I also have a weird obsession with upper arms, and for some reason, my bf used to be fat but now he's got that sort of skinny-but-still-some-flab to him, and his chest and more specifically, the "fat boy" nipples turn me on.
I love crossdressers, that's my number one fetish. especially when the other person is already very androgynous to begin with.
I also am starting to get into cosplay, I've always been something of a "pleaser", phone sex bores me (I did it as a job for quite awhile, but it bored me before then) but I love doing my "porno" voice or dressing up and acting parts to turn on the other party.
I'm heavily into BDSM and I'm switch. in sub mode I love being cut (but I'm not a cutter myself, oddly enough), love having my blood drank, and "servicing" the other person. I'm also currently in a master/slave relationship that's satisfying to no end. in dom mode, I love humiliation, not necessarily fully mental but some degree of it.
now here comes the really weird fetish. I have a total penis envy thing going on, nothing turns me on more than wearing a strap-on and having other people perform fellatio on it, or straddling a guy in such a way that when I give a handjob, it looks as if I'm doing it to my own penis. the really wonderful part? my bf has a secret "chick with a dick" fetish that neither of us confessed until a year after we were dating. so it's actually quite complementary.
man, after reading over my post, I wonder if I should put some sort of NFBSK warning or TMI space, even if it is already NFBSK gone wild.
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quote:Originally posted by E. Q. Taft: The winner: male perspiration.
Hmmm. The only time I've ever liked the smell of male was the one time I was head-over-heels, stupid, teenage-type in love (never do that again!). Even if he was stinky, I couldn't get enough. Most of the time, though, I like neutrality. Nothing pungent.
Which leads me to something I've been wondering about.
Kay, female perfumes, to me, stink. I love men's cologne. Many men I know love the smell of women's perfume, and aren't too keen on the smell of colognes.
Why, then, don't we just switch. I can wear what I like to smell, and so can you. Then everyone's happy! Makes sense, no?
Ummm. Yeah. Back on topic. There was a gorgeous dwarf on House the other night.
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quote:Originally posted by Ryda Wong, EBfCo.: Which leads me to something I've been wondering about.
Kay, female perfumes, to me, stink. I love men's cologne. Many men I know love the smell of women's perfume, and aren't too keen on the smell of colognes.
Why, then, don't we just switch. I can wear what I like to smell, and so can you. Then everyone's happy! Makes sense, no?
No. If you put on female purfume, your nose will acclimate to it so you no longer smell your own scent. But the guys you meet will enjoy the smell of your perfume. When a guy puts on cologne, his nose will acclimate so he won't smell it, but the women he meets will enjoy his scent.
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This isn't exactly a fetish, but it does fit in the "slightly odd things I find attractive" category.
OK. Start with a woman. Average figure, or perhaps a bit on the chunky side of average. She's walking down the street. She's got hair to her shoulders or longer, worn loose or pulled back -- any color. She's casually dressed, in her favorite comfy pair of jeans and a long-sleeved knit top, clingy but not so tight as to emphasize the figure too much. Her shoes are probably sneakers, perhaps sandals or flip-flops, maybe casual boots. Ideally, she's wearing glasses or sunglasses. Nothing particularly outstanding or distracting in the way of jewelrey or accessories; make-up is subtle, if any.
Picturing this? Very pleasant, in my view.
Now, give her a purse -- preferably a shoulder bag, medium-sized, slung so that it rides against the hip as she walks.
Boing! Twice as sexy.
Why? I dunno. Maybe the way it sits against her emphasizes her figure somehow. Maybe my brain is just conditioned to think of carrying a purse as a womanly thing to do, so it catches my attention. Maybe some other explanation. But it works on me....
Maybe it is just a thing for women.
Oh,and re: Kai's post...aren't there any somewhat older, unattatched women, on the west coast, with a crossdresser fetish? *sigh*
quote:Originally posted by Ryda Wong, EBfCo.: [QUOTE]Originally posted by E. Q. Taft: [qb]Which leads me to something I've been wondering about.
Kay, female perfumes, to me, stink. I love men's cologne. Many men I know love the smell of women's perfume, and aren't too keen on the smell of colognes.
I read this and wanted to let you know I feel the same way - women's perfumes almost all smell exactly the same to me, no matter if I'm dealing with cheap stuff or designer scents. Colognes I can differentiate between much easier.
I found a bottle of Christian Dior "Pure Poison" on sale last year and snapped it up because it's a perfume that actually smelled good to me - it has some notes that are almost piney and not the floral/musk/alcohol haze everything else smells like to me.
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Not exactly a fetish, but in the category of things that get me going . . . Strong Man competitions, brought to you by MetRx, usually on espn 2. (SWOON) Obvious body builders with the cut muscles that you see in Playgirl don't do anything, but those big burly heaps of masculinity lifting cars and doing bicep curls with tree trunks! Oooh BABY! Have to constantly reasure DH that I love him for more than just his big bulky body.
He'll be so mad when he finds out I told on him, but his hang-up just happens to be my new brand of deodorant. The store was out of my old scent, so I came home with something new to use in the meantime, and he practically attacked me when he caught the first whiff! It's Secret Platinum Protection, Genuine scent, in case anyone's wondering. I hate thinking of all the money I've wasted on perfumes when I got the best results from an antipersperant!
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Socks. Not slinky, sexy socks or little girl socks; not tights or stalkings and definately not the Japanese style "baggy socks." To see a woman walk around wearing nothing but pair of clean, white athletic socks just says "You know, it's a little chilly in here and my feet are cold... let's fix that."
On the "not actually a fetish in the technical term" side... I like necks. Yep, I'm a nuzzler. I enjoy kissing and massaging a woman's neck (no choking, thank you... it's a massage).
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Hairy toes? And I've been wasting my time shaving mine all these years. Well, the big ones, anyhoo.
Perfumes and colognes are big turn-offs for me. They're distracting. They get in the way of the scents I actually want to smell. I don't wear scented anything except for body cream on my hands and arms after a shower, but that scent is subtle, I believe.
I liked scents on males when I was a teenager but I think it was necessary then because, you know, all those rampant male hormones probably made them really stink, otherwise. Teenage musk. *sensory overload*
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quote:Originally posted by KaiTheInvader: oh where oh where to begin?
looks-wise, I like long long long hair, the longer the better. piercings, tattoos, and odd color hair (hell, look at my pics, it's not just on other people I like them.) I also have a weird obsession with upper arms, and for some reason, my bf used to be fat but now he's got that sort of skinny-but-still-some-flab to him, and his chest and more specifically, the "fat boy" nipples turn me on.
I love crossdressers, that's my number one fetish. especially when the other person is already very androgynous to begin with.
I also am starting to get into cosplay, I've always been something of a "pleaser", phone sex bores me (I did it as a job for quite awhile, but it bored me before then) but I love doing my "porno" voice or dressing up and acting parts to turn on the other party.
I'm heavily into BDSM and I'm switch. in sub mode I love being cut (but I'm not a cutter myself, oddly enough), love having my blood drank, and "servicing" the other person. I'm also currently in a master/slave relationship that's satisfying to no end. in dom mode, I love humiliation, not necessarily fully mental but some degree of it.
now here comes the really weird fetish. I have a total penis envy thing going on, nothing turns me on more than wearing a strap-on and having other people perform fellatio on it, or straddling a guy in such a way that when I give a handjob, it looks as if I'm doing it to my own penis. the really wonderful part? my bf has a secret "chick with a dick" fetish that neither of us confessed until a year after we were dating. so it's actually quite complementary.
man, after reading over my post, I wonder if I should put some sort of NFBSK warning or TMI space, even if it is already NFBSK gone wild.
Quit copying me!
Seriously though, that's... eerie. You even mentioned stuff that I have a thing for but that I didn't actually mention in my huge post. Especially the whole penis envy thing. Including the part where my fiancee is totally into it too.
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I don't know if this qualifies as a fetish but if I see a woman with a nice pair of legs I get turned on. When I was in college I dated a girl who had an awsome pair of legs and whenever she wore shorts or anything that exposed her legs I had the urge to want to pick her up and carry her around, which I did frequently and luckily she did not mind. I found that to be a huge turn on. I don't know if that would be a fetish or not maybe it is more of a turn on.
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That's not technically a fetish, but people are posting all sorts of stuff in here that doesn't meet the dictionary definition.
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Don't have any fetishes as in "things that must be present," but turn-ons?
Deep-colored hair - and by that I mean hair that is a VERY (whatever color it is). Very blue, very blonde, bright red, nothing held back. Mixed colors work, too.
Off-colored eyes (eyes of different colors, or strange colors (ultra-light grey, or purple, or black, etc), or irises with unusual coloration patterns.
Glasses. OMFG, girls in glasses. *POINK!*
Beatnik shirts you know, those tight black sweaters.
Bedroom personality changes Surprise!! You thought you had a timid little kitten, but abracadabra, man-eating-tigress! Watch the teeth, watch the TEE-umph!
Fan-tasy She knows who Andreas Katsulas is, can give at least three speeches from Babylon 5 from memory, and didn't flinch when she saw the Optimus Prime poster in my living room.
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quote:Originally posted by First of Two: Bedroom personality changes Surprise!! You thought you had a timid little kitten, but abracadabra, man-eating-tigress! Watch the teeth, watch the TEE-umph!
Now, does this work the other way, too? You bring home a half-naked sex kitten from a club, thinking you're about to get on a rocket-ride to the moon...and then you find out she's a terrified little introvert!
Well, heh, you said you liked "bedroom personality changes," not the effects thereof!
quote:Originally posted by First of Two: Glasses. OMFG, girls in glasses.
*high-fives FoT*
I knew there had to be something on which I agreed with you.
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quote:Originally posted by First of Two: Glasses. OMFG, girls in glasses. *POINK!*
I adore a man in glasses. Never seem to date any though
I'm a girl who wears glasses and refuses to wear contacts... am not sure why to be honest, I don't mind them... I just prefer glasses, I think it's because they add shape to the face... if that makes sense?
I once dated a guy who liked me to keep my glasses on all the time, because they maked me look 'feline' and that did it for him... he was just a bit too odd though.
As for me... dress in scrubs or in a suit and I'm yours
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quote:Originally posted by First of Two: Glasses. OMFG, girls in glasses. *POINK!*
I adore a man in glasses. Never seem to date any though
I'm a girl who wears glasses and refuses to wear contacts... am not sure why to be honest, I don't mind them... I just prefer glasses, I think it's because they add shape to the face... if that makes sense?
Makes perfect sense! I *have* to wear glasses; without 'em, I'm godawful ugly. (With 'em, I'm no damn prize...)
Also, glasses offer a sense of protection. A layer of armor. I've had bits of metal or gravel or dirt ping off of my glasses, and thought, "Without 'em, that would have gone right into my eye."
And...I love girls in glasses! One of the best Xmas presents anyone ever gave to me was a photo of two beautiful red-headed twins, wearing glasses. (Okay, and other clothing too.)
There is even a sub-genre of porn involving models wearing glasses (and *not* wearing other clothing too!) There's a specific Japanese term for it, something like "meganekko." In American English, we call it "porndexter."
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I refuse to get contacts because I like the way my glasses look as well. and I was wearing black rim glasses way before they were cool.
My mom always accuses me of 'hiding' behind my glasses, but I don't care.
I think because I wear them so much, when people finally see me without them on they're all "Wow!" Not sure why exactly they think I look better with them off, I look way cuter with them on.
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I'm attracted to girls who look, I guess I might say, nerdy. Plain, natural, friendly, that kind of thing.
Slightly stranger is I like hair. Long hair. I like to run my fingers through hair, which is why my own is rather messy most of the time. Once or twice in my life I saw a woman who donated their hair (for cancer patients or something like that), and it just bothered me that they looked just... ugh...
Stranger still is an attraction to pregnant women, although that might be more of some kind of unconscious desire to have a family... who knows.
Piercings and heavy make up are both turn offs enough that I'd almost rather not even talk to them.
In any event none of that seems to matter since no one ever wants to partake of my friendship.
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quote:Originally posted by KaiTheInvader: straddling a guy in such a way that when I give a handjob, it looks as if I'm doing it to my own penis.
I love doing that too
I used a strap-on with a former partner and I got really possessive of it. It actually felt like part of me. The odd thing is that years before I ever tried that, I'd had dreams where I had full male anatomy. It felt really odd to have an unaccustomed weight at the crotch and odd (and in the dream embarrassing) to have a spontaneous erection and unusual sensations. The strap-on was a bit like that, but I had to imagine the sensations.
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Well at least I made some sense, Silas! I actually like the sound of "porndexter", I won't go into too much detail but I have to write an essay for the end of next month entitled "Softcore pornography and the hetrosexual male" so I'm thinking that maybe I can look into these sub-genres. Might get me a few extra points.
I've also just realised how weird I look on my profile pic without my glasses! It's got to the point now that if I don't have on my glasses or my watch, I feel naked. Think I may change it to one of my more 'feline-looking' pics hehe.
Elbe - I share your love for hair! I love having my hair played with, brushed... especially washed. Mmm. I think I need to find a hairdresser boyfriend
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quote:Originally posted by Tequila Mockingbird: I've also just realised how weird I look on my profile pic without my glasses! It's got to the point now that if I don't have on my glasses or my watch, I feel naked. Think I may change it to one of my more 'feline-looking' pics hehe.
Elbe - I share your love for hair! I love having my hair played with, brushed... especially washed. Mmm. I think I need to find a hairdresser boyfriend
Every picture I have of myself I think looks strange because I'm not wearing my glasses (I really haven't had any pictures taken since I got them). While I think they make me look a little better I have to deal with a complete lack of selection at the optometrists because of my rather large head.
While women with glasses doesn't, by itself, do anything for me, I do think glasses can add to an overall attractive quality in a woman.
Conversly - to the last part of the quote, my father is/was dating a hairdresser and completely refused to let her touch his hair. It seemed kind of strange.
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I don't really have any, but DH does. Lingerie, hosiery, and the right shoes. The RIGHT shoes. He's very particular: closed toe, open sides, closed heel, at least a 3" heel (4" or more preferred), ankle strap. (The 1990s were rough on DH.)
Most embarrassing moment: being walked into DSW - 5 minutes before closing! - with 2 salespeople showing us everything they had that was even close - and his telling them that none of the shoes in the entire store were the RIGHT shoes.
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quote:Originally posted by Stormfeather: To take the topic somewhat seriously... I wouldn't go as far to say it's a *fetish* and it doesn't just turn me on in and of itself but.. I LOVE hair. Lovelovelove. I love to have mine stroked and brushed, and I love to play with other people's... even other females' hair, but if it's an attractive guy's hair... *purr*
(To really fit my type, a guy should have long hair, and no facial hair. Mrow. Exceptions can be made on the long hair for a cute/funny/whatever enough guy, but... I really don't know if I could bend on the facial hair. That is, like, my utter anti-fetish.)
Now aren't y'all glad to know that?
I'm glad to know it! Now, go and recruit others to your preferences!
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quote:Originally posted by Elbe: Slightly stranger is I like hair. Long hair. I like to run my fingers through hair, which is why my own is rather messy most of the time. Once or twice in my life I saw a woman who donated their hair (for cancer patients or something like that), and it just bothered me that they looked just... ugh...
Do you feel this way about all women with short hair, or just those who've donated their locks?
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While on the subject of hair, I have to confess to having a massive, massive preference for boys with chin-length hair. I thought I'd grow out of it, but I never did. It's just so, so hot.
I also have an involuntary giggly, blushy response to Northern Irish accents. I once had a phone-only relationship with a boy from Donegal because his accent did things to me. :shivers: Irish people were always like, "those accents are the worst!" but there you go.
Furthermore, a celtic band or plain black non tribal tattoo on a man's upper arm... also hot.
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