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Sullen Moon
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So last night, someone in my apartment building (pretty sure the people upstairs) was enjoying some rather LOUD adult fun. This is the first time I've encountered this situation, so I'm wondering if there's anything that one can do. When someone's playing their music too loud you can pound on the ceiling. What do you do when someone's moaning/screaming too loudly?! [Frown]

And really, it wasn't the act that was bothering me, although I admit I blushed when I realized what I was hearing. It was the noise, pure and simple. It was late, I was trying to fall asleep, and they were being too loud!!!

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My neighbors several years ago were a group of Naval Officers. They frequently had female guests who expressed their appreciation for the officer's services to their country with loud cries during whatever it was they were doing.

While it was embarrasing to me and also to the captain I approached he was really nice about resolving the issue. Suck up your pride and say something to your neighbor. I am sure better people that I can supply you with clever quips to use.

I just said, "Last night, we could hear you and your lady friend. Normally I'm not a hater, but it was kinda late." He blushed said sorry and kept the noise to a minimum. Lets face facts: not everyone knows that their neighbors can hear them, regardless of their activity, unless someone says something.

Good luck - if their response is less than rosy get the landlord involved and you can always make a noise complaint to your local non-emergency police number.

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Roadie
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I had this happen many many many years ago. My upstairs neighbors had a balcony that overlooked my patio, both off our respective bedrooms. It was summer, very hot, all the windows open.

I awoke to moooaaaaannninng and "Oh yeah, baby"s that wouldn't stop. After about ten minutes of this, and feeling kinda jealous to tell the truth, I walked over to the sliding glass door and yelled, "NFBSK her harder!"

The noise immediately stopped, followed by heavy footsteps and the slamming of the window.

Crude, but effective.

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My bedroom used to be directly over my parents', and I could hear it whenever they got busy. Finally, I took my bo staff and just pounded on the floor. They were quieter after that.
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LadyLockeout
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Walk upstairs in the middle of it and knock. If/when they answer, offer them a ball gag and say "I think you need this" And then just go back to bed.

[Big Grin]

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BlueByrd
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I live in a structurally unsound building, it has been scheduled for demolition within the next four years. Last time things got really interesting in my bedroom, a lamp actually came down from my downstairs neighbour's ceiling.

She took a picture of the damage with her webcam and sent it over once she found me online, with the caption "Looks like this one's a keeper, eh?" and the suggestion we go to his place next time...

As for noise of that ilk late at night, I'd say it's no different from other forms of noise pollution and as such warrants thumping back. Yelling "Oh, will you get on with it!" shall be optional.

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Lady Moon
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The one and only time this happened to me, it was our landlords.

Now that was embarrassing to face them! I couldn't see them for a month without blushing!

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Esprise Me
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Look at it this way. If your neighbors were privy to your intimate moments, wouldn't you want to know?
Or, not, maybe...

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Sullen Moon
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quote:
Originally posted by Esprise Me:
Look at it this way. If your neighbors were privy to your intimate moments, wouldn't you want to know?
Or, not, maybe...

Now that's starting to scare me! I will be sure to be extra quiet in the future... [Big Grin]

I'm not entirely sure who the culprits were, so a face to face talk is out of the question. I did think of typing up a very nice sign to put in the elevator for all to see:
"To our vocal neighbors somewhere on the 4th floor...
PUT A SOCK IN HER MOUTH SO WE CAN ALL GET SOME SLEEP!
Thank you [Smile] "
But alas, I'm afraid it's a bit late for that to have an effect. I've already had to hit my ceiling with a broomstick once for the suspects' music, I guess if they give a repeat performance I wont be so shy about doing it again.

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Unknown Soldier
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I had this experience with some upstairs neighbors while at FSU. Very loud NFBSKing going on about once a week. I never said anything to them, because... well... they were lesbians, and I just didn't have the heart, if you know what I mean. [Big Grin]

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I had this problem at an old apartment with my upstairs neighbors, but...well, it only went on for a few minutes at a time, every other week or so, so I figured they needed what they could get, and just went into the other room till they finished.

On the other hand, I had lived in that place for about a year and the next door neighbor had never replied when I said hi. I had a girlfriend over who was quite enthusiastic one weekend. The Monday after, the neighbor suddently started saying hi and being friendly. Maybe I had impressed her?

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Troberg
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Just drop a hint that you heard someone effing loud as hell and that they made the most ridiculous noices you've ever heard and you are considering taping it for your answering machine. You don't have to show that you know who made the sounds.

Trust me, they will be very silent in the future...

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Seaboe Muffinchucker
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quote:
Originally posted by Troberg:
Just drop a hint that you heard someone effing loud as hell and that they made the most ridiculous noices you've ever heard and you are considering taping it for your answering machine. You don't have to show that you know who made the sounds.

Trust me, they will be very silent in the future...

Is this the voice of experience?

Seaboe

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Autumn Neko
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My husband and I had this problem at the first apartment we lived in. The woman downstairs was absolutely fine until one week when her son went to stay at her ex's house. I swear, from then on (even after the son came back) that woman must have had a line of men waiting for her and they didn't just keep to the bedroom. I was lucky, though - her amorous activities were usually no later than 9pm or so, so when we started to overhear a little too much, we would turn up the stereo/tv to drown her out. She must've noticed because she did get quieter soon after.

I don't think talking to her would have done any good - when we moved in and met her for the first time, she started talking about her love life and how "things might get a little noisy." Talk about an awkward conversation. I tried to avoid her as much as possible...

I don't really have a solution to the OP's problem, but I like Troberg's suggestion [Big Grin]

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MapMaker
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In an old apartment the upstairs neighbor was referred to as "minute man". We'd hear a few squeaks of a bed frame then they got louder and faster then would all of a sudden stop then we'd hear footsteps across the room and down the hall and it was all over.

We didn't have the heart to say anything to them about it [lol]

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Troberg
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quote:
Is this the voice of experience?
Yep. Even their partying (three nights a week until 5 in the morning) got nice and quiet.

Might not work if they are exhibitionists, though. In that case, just go with it and charge money for perverts to listen to them... (And no, that is not the voice of experience)

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Sullen Moon
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I'm begining to think that these neighbors are just loud in general (sigh)

No repeat performance yet, but they were up last night with a big group of people partying and talking very loudly. It's a shame, because even though it's a large building with many apartments, they are the only people around me that can't seem to use their "indoor voices" [Wink]

I think I'll use troberg's suggestion next chance I get [lol]

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quote:
Originally posted by MapMaker:
In an old apartment the upstairs neighbor was referred to as "minute man". We'd hear a few squeaks of a bed frame then they got louder and faster then would all of a sudden stop then we'd hear footsteps across the room and down the hall and it was all over.

We didn't have the heart to say anything to them about it [lol]

Anybody else thinking of "For Better or Worse" with Tim Allen and Kirstie Alley?

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Seaboe Muffinchucker
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We have a new column in our local paper on Wednesdays called Carnal Knowledge. Today's column on privacy made me think of this thread.

Seaboe

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I had some next-door neighbors who used to keep me awake with the thumping of their headboard against the wall. The next time I saw the guy heading for work (his wife was standing in the doorway, I suggested that he pull his bed a foot out from the wall so I could get some sleep. He got a huge grin on his face and his wife turned a shade of red not found in nature.

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quote:
From Seaboe's link:
Illustrating with a more modern example, he writes that if it was an everyday occurrence for people to go into heat, get naked and full-out copulate, say, on the office couch, we just wouldn't get that much work done.

[lol]
It might help reduce the number of fake sick days people take.

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In college I lived in a dorm with paper thin walls. One of my close friends lived next door and kept a live-in girlfriend. She mentioned once that my pal had some difficulty maintaining his erm... concentration... during distractions. From then on whenever their NFBSKing got too disturbing, I'd call his room, let it ring two or three times, then hang up. Repeat as necessary. [Big Grin]

She'd curse me pretty thoroughly the next day, but at least I'd get some sleep.

She and I wound up joking about it a few years later when we started dating.

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I used to live in one of those apartments with the paper thin walls and I got to hear the whole thing. First the argument, then the make up lovemaking. I thought about knocking on the door and asking them if they wanted a threesome. Never did, though--and I wasn't the perfect neighbor either (hell, I had a dozen shrieking birds and a bad habit of loudly playing punk rock at 7:00 AM, so I couldn't really complain about the neighbors having some fun.)
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face your speakers at the wall, put some porn on, turn up the volume. They'll soon get the message.

Either that or put on some show talking about mother's/father's day. They'll get a mental image of their parents in their heads that they won't be able to shake....

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Sullen Moon
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There's been only one repeat performace so far, so I guess it's better than every night, but once again it was when i was having trouble sleeping. Which is probably why I hear it. It's entirely possible they're loud every night and I just sleep right through it!

But anyway, I pounded on the ceiling this time, which has made them turn down the radio before but didn't do diddly squat for this noise. Next time I'm going upstairs and knocking on the door. (I don't wear pjs, otherwise I would have done it long before, and sorry if that was TMI)

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Seaboe Muffinchucker
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Try pounding on the ceiling in the same rhythm as they are maintaining. [Big Grin]

Seaboe

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Sullen Moon
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LOL! if only there was a rhythm! No, I get to hear "oh god, oh yes, ohhhhhhhhh..." in the most whiny annoying voice you've ever heard. Think "Olive Oyl" from Popeye and you might get close (I'm sorry if I just put some bad mental images out there!)

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Sounds like a business opportunity to me. Get a static IP address, a decent microphone and charge membership to your site. Porn is about the only business on the web that consistently makes a profit.

Alternatively, don't do this - but tell them that you have.

Blues.

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quote:
Originally posted by Seaboe.Muffinchucker:
We have a new column in our local paper on Wednesdays called Carnal Knowledge. Today's column on privacy made me think of this thread.

Seaboe

This column implies horrific things about the Kama Sutra night club. I live in the Philly area, and while I've never (yet) been to Kama Sutra, they make no effort at all to hide what happens there. They are very open concerning what they are about, and make sure prospective guests are aware too, before visiting.

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