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What is the obsession with the Top Friends on myspace?
I mean essentially, I figured it was a popularity contest amongst the kiddies, but everyone seems to be plagued by it!
I don't know how many people's "Top friends" I'm even in, but I don't really care either. Most of the people on my friendlist are people I know IRL anyway, so I don't care about being "popular".
Just today, one of my myspace "friends" posted a bulletin soliciting people to be on his top friendslist. Another guy had a few comments on his page with people asking why they had been removed or even moved down!
This whole thing just makes me wonder...
Any thoughts...? Comments?
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It's sad, but so many people on myspace still have "high school popularity" need. Some people get so stuck up with it that it just gets ridiculus. I admit, I was kinda sad that I wasn't on a certian friend's top list, but then I got over it five minutes later. Just because I'm not on their top list dosen't mean I'm not their friend, which is what a large percentage of myspacers should learn.
All you can really do is just put the people you either check most often or care most about, or just whoever you want on your list, and whoever complains, just drop them. I even make it a point to say in my about me section that my top friends list is specifically for people that either know me best, or ones that I like to check up on every single day.
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I have *two of my kids in my top friends- but they asked that they not be number one/two. How lame does that make me?
*not the oldest, she refuses to join the cult- I mean, to get a MySpace.
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FrogFeathers, I am glad your daughter is another non-MySpacer. I signed up for MySpace just so I could contact an old friend from high school that I found on there. I chickened out on contacting her, and I haven't done anything on there since. I haven't even bothered to go and delete my page. I am unpopular enough in real life; I don't need to be unpopular in my virtual life as well!
Besides, I have a personal website with my own name as the domain name that has my professional information (C.V., examples of my art and research, and so on) and a subdomain with photos for family and friends. That works better for me, since it is my own format, and as a bonus I don't get any of those MyGlurges.
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My general rule is that people I know IRL are first, people I know online are second, and people I wish I knew are last. That sometimes gets further broken down so that people I know IRL now are first and people I knew in high school or whatever are second. Beyond that I don't worry about it.
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After the number one spot on my top friends thing, the list has no meaning. My boyfriend is the first on there because I'm first on his. After that, the order has nothing to do with how much I like people, I just randomize it every now and then. I have one friend who can't seem to understand why she's either not on there or is number eight...I'm half tempted to delete the page and start over, I don't talk to most of the people on there anyway.
Heather
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I've started switching to using the top friends space for bands I like, with the exception of a person I actually know IRL and my local rock club. There are a couple of snopesters still on there too at the moment, but it will eventually be bands. Basically I use myspace as a lazy means of keeping up with band news rather than contacting people.
quote:Originally posted by Jenn: My top friends are in the order they were when originally added as friends and I haven't bothered with the order since.
That's the way it is for me too. I just don't have the time or the inclination to try to shift them around. I really don't see a reason to either.
Noemi
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I've only had one time in which someone bitched to me because he wasn't on my Top 4. After he did that I expanded out my Top 4 list to be my Top 24 list and I put everyone except him into it (since I conveniently had 25 friends).
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I have my husband and Nathan Fillion as my top 1 and 2. How can you call yourself a Browncoat and not have Captain Tightpants in your top 8?
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I think there is a way to hide the "Friends" list too; its something I have to fiddle with. I also know there is some sort of tweak out there where you can display more than the default 24 (might be elsewhere on snopes).
I tend to put the people I met IRL and the longest first, the ones I barely talk to or those who barely use myspace get sent to the bottom. My group is so mixed with various people I know from at least 3 forums, 1 yahoolist, an old chat room... I still don't have any RL only people or any from my old AOL group of friends on there...yet, lol.
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