-------------------- How homophobic do you have to be to have penguin gaydar? - Lewis Black Posts: 8322 | From: Columbus, OH | Registered: Aug 2005
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I find porn that depicts gratuitous bonking utterly boring. My body, however, begs to differ with my mind. So while my nether regions are all revved up and ready for action, my mind isn't interested and, if asked whether I was aroused or not, I'd say "not aroused" since I wouldn't be interested in having sex (as opposed to my genitals not being ready for sex). I wonder if they've considered the difference in physical and psychological arousal?
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I often find that my mind and body disagree. I can be physically aroused and yet simply "not feeling it". And it's so hard to explain to someone why you're not interested. You know, 'cause guys are supposed to be constantly ready at a moment's notice.
-------------------- "For me, religion is like a rhinoceros: I don't have one, and I'd really prefer not to be trampled by yours. But it is impressive, and even beautiful, and, to be honest, the world would be slightly worse off if there weren't any." -Silas Sparkhammer Posts: 3239 | From: Ontario, Canada | Registered: Sep 2003
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I agree with Llewtrah and MapleLeaf, and also often find the converse. Psychologically, I'm longing for some "action", but my nether regions just aren't responding. [TMI] thank DoYC for lube! [/TMI]
-------------------- If you don't cry it isn't love If you don't cry then you just don't feel it deep enough Posts: 238 | From: Ireland | Registered: Jan 2006
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Lube is one thing, but if a guy isn't feeling it, it's not going up. And all the lube in the world isn't going to give someone an erection.
-------------------- "For me, religion is like a rhinoceros: I don't have one, and I'd really prefer not to be trampled by yours. But it is impressive, and even beautiful, and, to be honest, the world would be slightly worse off if there weren't any." -Silas Sparkhammer Posts: 3239 | From: Ontario, Canada | Registered: Sep 2003
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Speaking about mind and body,there was a programme on british TV about female sexuality. They put sensors on the women's nether regions. They also asked the women to gage, using a button, how aroused they were. When they played a video of animals mating, all the women said they did not feel aroused, but their physical reactions were close to the same as if they were watching humans at it.
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I've never heard that it takes women longer than men to become aroused. My understanding is that women sometimes require a different kind of stimulus (touch as opposed to visuals), and a woman's arousal isn't as immediately apparent as a man's (wetness as opposed to an erection.) Thus, a man making love to a woman might have to make a bit more effort to ensure she's turned on before he starts banging away than would be the case if he were having sex with another man.
ETA: Actually, the closest thing I've heard to the "myth" the study in the OP supposedly debunks is that women take longer to reach orgasm. This is often true, in my experience, but I've seen exceptions.
-------------------- "If God wrote it, the grammar must be infallible. Perhaps it is we who are mistaken." -MapleLeaf Posts: 977 | From: Boston, MA | Registered: Oct 2005
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I've also heard that women need stimulation all the way through to reach orgasm. That is, once a woman starts, you still need to stimulate her to keep it going. Actually, this isn't something I've just heard...I've also experienced. It definitely feels way better when I keep stimulating myself than if I just take my hand/toy away as I reach orgasm.
-------------------- "You can't play Electro-magnetic Golf according to the rules of Centrifugal Bumble Puppy." -Mustapha Mond, "Brave New World" Posts: 679 | From: New York | Registered: Oct 2001
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quote:Originally posted by Artemis: I've also heard that women need stimulation all the way through to reach orgasm. That is, once a woman starts, you still need to stimulate her to keep it going. Actually, this isn't something I've just heard...I've also experienced. It definitely feels way better when I keep stimulating myself than if I just take my hand/toy away as I reach orgasm.
'd say the same though. I dont just stop when I climax; I carry on while it's happening, and slow down gradually as it finishes.
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quote:Originally posted by Artemis: It definitely feels way better when I keep stimulating myself than if I just take my hand/toy away as I reach orgasm.
Same here, but I don't think that's unique to women.
-------------------- "If God wrote it, the grammar must be infallible. Perhaps it is we who are mistaken." -MapleLeaf Posts: 977 | From: Boston, MA | Registered: Oct 2005
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Nope. Same here. Stopping the stimulation right as I orgasm is maddeningly unsatisfying.
-------------------- "For me, religion is like a rhinoceros: I don't have one, and I'd really prefer not to be trampled by yours. But it is impressive, and even beautiful, and, to be honest, the world would be slightly worse off if there weren't any." -Silas Sparkhammer Posts: 3239 | From: Ontario, Canada | Registered: Sep 2003
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