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Para
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We had our company Christmas party this week. (I can hear your eyes rolling already!) I typically do not attend these fuctions. I find some excuse not to go because I'm just not a "party" person, and I don't think drinking = awesome. Plus I'm really pretty introverted, and these big social functions just make me feel awkward, isolated, and miserable. Especially since I don't really have any close friends at work.

I ended up being basically forced to go, on the threat of losing my bonus and creating a lot of ill-will, and let me just say I did not really enjoy it at all.

The music was far, FAR too loud for such a small, enclosed place. There was way too much alcohol, and far too many people were having far too much of it. I left after two hours, which was the soonest I could manage without being the first one to leave. When I left, one person who I now finally believe is an alcoholic was running around grabbing people and demanding they do jello shots with her. Several fairly intoxicated people were "dancing", and more drinking was going on outside.

I found out today that after OUR party finally shut down, the main group of partiers managed to stay until closing at two different bars. I got odd looks from several people for going home early "while the fun was still going on!"

I don't get it. Why am I the "weirdo" for not being a drinker? I've never been one, and don't really see the appeal in it. And I just don't see how my refusal to get wasted (hour-long drive home? Alone? No one to call to come get me?) means I was a party-pooper.

There's my rant. [Roll Eyes]

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As one of said "main group of partiers"-type people, I might have drunkenly kidded many friends about leaving "before the fun is over" a few times. Which, of course, makes me a jerk. There's nothing wrong with those who do not like drinking. But get a little alcohol in some people, and they think that everyone should always be drunk and anyone who doesn't is missing out. And that sucks when you're the sober one.

I'm a little surprised that you were threatened with losing your bonus by not going to the Christmas party. 'Cause it sounds like not going would have been your best bet. That's just mean of your company.

So, to recap:

Not drinking = completely okay
Drunks = jerks

Maple"Sometimes a drunk"Leaf

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I think that at some point in the maturation process, doing jello shots should end. The same goes for Jaeger shots as well.

Para, I do think it's pretty shitty that your bonus was held on the condition you attend the party. That sort of extortion is ridiculous.

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Not getting your bonus for not going to a partty? Possible lawsuit?

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I'm surprised to hear that there are still companies who sponsor parties with heavy drinking. I thought those had died out over the years due to concerns about liability. Perhaps I've just been lucky in my choice of employers.

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Are people actually giving you a hard time about it? That sucks.

Eh, I'm fairly anti-social but can manage to do the holiday party, and have fun. Our party sounds a lot like yours -- down to some people going to the bar after the party. Small town though -- so some people, unless they're from surrounding areas, didn't have far to go. I also have a designated driver in hubby, who barely drinks -- over the 7 hours that included dinner, bowling, and bar, he had a beer and half of one of my Smirnoff's.

Anyhow, there is nothing wrong with not being into the party scene, and since this is *me* most of the time, I'd never criticize someone over it.

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I went to the town Christmas party the first week I started work at my new job. It is probably the only occasion in the year when most town employees are gathered in the same place. Anyway most people who were drinking steadily managed to maintain some sense of decorum. Except one woman who was royally drunk before the meal was even served and made a total fool of herself. Most of us were pretty embarassed for her. I mean she was DRUNK.

It got me wondering what my role as a supervisor would be if someone who reported to me got out of control drunk at a company function. I mean should I say anything to her? Technically it's her private time but realistically she's only at this party because of her job. Boy was I glad I didn't have to deal with that one!

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Para
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True enough. [Wink] Several of the "main group of partiers" go out just about every single night to bar-hop until they can't stand up anymore, though. I'm sure that at least some of their famed exploits are real and not just boasting because I "got" to see photos taken during one of them once, and have been offered pictures of others since. (I never want to see ____ _______ in nothing but a size small bikini thong belonging to ______ _______. Never. No matter how many times it's offered. I just can't imagine how horrible he looked, and I'd prefer not finding out.)

I worry a little about a few of these people, honestly. I'm very uncomfortable with their drinking, and less comfortable with them trying to get me to join in. I understand that it's something they enjoy, and is part of their lifestyle and I don't have to like it.. but when they're measuring who had the best time by who got the sickest afterwards, I can't help but think they're taking it to excess.

Apparently the boss and his wife really, REALLY wanted me to come and be "part of the group". I don't know if he'd really have withheld my bonus, but he apparently did it to one guy at the office last year. They made a point of telling me how glad they were that I came a lot. I guess I should have found that nice, but after being pestered to come for three months and assuring them I would, I was starting to wonder if I was going to be Carrie on prom night or something that evening.

I mostly just sat by myself when I could.

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Para, was the party after hours or on the clock? I ask because at Hubby's work, not going to the party does mean losing the holiday pay. The party is done during work hours sans alcohol and not going is the same as leaving 1/2 day early from work. Not working the whole day prior to a holiday without prior arrangements means forfeiting the holiday pay.

Edited because there is a difference between holiday pay and holiday bonus.

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Para
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Lainie: What makes this sort of funny is that we were all given very nice sweatshirts (the guys got hoodies, the lucky...) with the company name VERY prominently emblazoned on them at the party. I'm sure several people were wearing them at the bar. And maybe the second bar, too. [Roll Eyes]

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Para
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quote:
Originally posted by tribrats:
Para, was the party after hours or on the clock? I ask because at Hubby's work, not going to the party does mean losing the holiday pay. The party is done during work hours sans alcohol and not going is the same as leaving 1/2 day early from work. Not working the whole day prior to a holiday without prior arrangements means forfeiting the holiday pay.

Edited because there is a difference between holiday pay and holiday bonus.

It was after work. Pretty inconvenient from my standpoint, since we got off early that day and no one knew beforehand. So I got to drive home and then back for the event. I could have just stayed in town for six hours, but I have all my shopping done. And honestly, there's not a lot to do in that town.

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In that case, they had no right to make you go. I'd complain to HR.

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Para
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Originally posted by tribrats:
In that case, they had no right to make you go. I'd complain to HR.

We're a small company, and the boss pretty much IS our Human Resources Dept. And he wanted me to come and be part of the group, so... *shrug*

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What a horrible experience. Maybe you should try to find another work environment. Those people don't sound very intelligent to me.

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Originally posted by AnglsWeHvHrdOnHiRdr:
I think that at some point in the maturation process, doing jello shots should end. The same goes for Jaeger shots as well.

Oh, it's the 'we don't drink Jaeger' crew... What up?

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We have one alcoholic where I work. Two of the last 4 years, the phrase "Either you leave quietly, sir, or we call security" was uttered during our Christmas party. Every measure to keep this guy under control - drink tickets and rationing included - have not worked. He comes to the party half-cut. Last year he started an "after hours" club in his hotel room after the bar closed. Yesterday at our office pot luck, he got to that loud, belligerent drunken stage after *one* drink. Long before it could have affected him physically - he was drunk *mentally* just from the knowledge of having a drink.

Oh, and he's 56.

There are all kinds.

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Para
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quote:
Originally posted by Signora Del Drago, G.R.I.T.S.:
What a horrible experience. Maybe you should try to find another work environment. Those people don't sound very intelligent to me.

Well, this is probably far and away the worst thing that's ever happened to me here. The boss is usually very generous (he offered me time off when my previous cat died, and a week off with pay when my mom died), and I think he *meant* well by trying to get me to socialize more with everyone. He's one of these boistrous, extravagant people who just don't always get that not everyone is wired that way.

The meal he had catered was fabulous, we had prime rib so tender you could cut it with a plastic knife.

I guess he knows most of the crew like to party, and was trying to make the party as enjoyable for the majority as he could.

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You are definitely not the weirdo! I don't drink alcohol either, and I get the same looks. I just blow it off.

My job is one that I bet no one else here does: I work in the office for a large traveling carnival, we handle paperwork, payroll, issuing tickets/wristbands to the ticket sellers when open, taking the money from said sales, take care of taxes, make sure bills get paid, give the drivers expense money, etc., etc.

It is a fascinating business to be in, one example is each state during the Winter usually holds a a fair convention in which all the carnivals that play spots in said state and the various fairboard's/festival committees from that state get together, have a banquet, auction, tradeshow (where different "acts" show their wares and hope a fair/festival will book them as entertainment), etc. And each show will have a "suite" at the hotel the convention is at, and fairboard/festival committee members drop in and visit, some from the spots said show plays, some from spots they don't but want to, friends from different shows meet and hang out, and THE LIQUOR FLOWS LIKE NIAGARA FALLS! Some carnival companies are famous at certain conventions for the parties they throw, ours is one of them. And committees will pass the word on which suite has the best drinks!

Well, I attended one of the conventions two years ago for the first time, and was amazed at the amount of folks that were slurpping all that alcohol down and going back for more, and more, and more, and more....the line to get into our suite stretched down the hall all the way to the elevators. I kept getting offered more and more, I kept saying no and no, and got more dirty looks than I cared to count. BUT I DID NOT CARE. After awhile, I simply left and went and visited some friends in other suites where the action was simply a football game on the television, yes there was some alcohol but nothing major, and some good conversation, and I never touched a drop all night! Strongest "drink" I had was a Coca-Cola.

The next day, the owner of our show actually said he was surprised at my restraint, and he actually wished he could have at least some of that same restraint. He apologized and said that he was sorry if I was made to feel uncomfortable. Interesting how things work out sometimes!

So anyways, my LOOOONG point is, you are not a weirdo, nor are you alone, and sometimes things will end up working in your favour. Hey, I wonder how bad their hangover's were, while you slept like a baby and woke up fine?!?!? LOL

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Gad. What an annoyance!

I'm always up for a party, myself, but I don't think I've ever egged someone on about not drinking - and at the parties I attend, I don't see that happening either. My husband quit drinking for two years and people would ask him about it (just of curiosity, cause he used to get "to' up" almost all the time) and when he told them he wasn't drinking they'd just shrug. Other people have decided they didn't want to drink before and not been bothered either. We are all so careful nowadays to have a designated driver - 20 years ago that wasn't the case. With my particular group of friends, I mean. I have no knowledge of how other people act.

I just can't imagine, in this day and age, urging someone to drink.

Uhm...and I guess I'm not grown up, because I love jello shots... [Embarrassed] *winks at angls*

Maybe partying with your friends is different than an office party. I have very little experience with those types of parties, and the few office functions I've been to were non alcoholic. And boring as hell, but hey, a free meal, what the heck.

You aren't wierd, but they are jerks, and need to grow up, with or without the jello shots.

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As I've stated on this board before, I, too, am a non-drinker. Thankfully, that whole "You need to start drinking" crap has fallen by the wayside as I got older. I go out with my friends now on occasion (not terribly often) and nobody ever tries to get me to drink. I guess most people feel "live and let live, none of my business what Amigone does." I thank them for that.

Chin up, Para, there are good people out there, you just have to find them. And no, from the way your coworkers conducted themselves, they were not good people.

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It really is stupid to pressure someone to drink. Some people shouldn't have alcohol for health reasons. I have a friend who has hepatitus C and never drinks because of the potential for damaging his liver, and I'm sure there are other conditions that make drinking dangerous as well.

This sort of situation is even worse for someone combating alcoholism. I've heard people say that recovering from alcoholism is harder than from the most addictive drug simply because alcohol is often such a ever-present part of social life.

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I don't know why adults feel they have to drink and drink until they are wasted. I did that a few times in my late teens/early 20's, but for DOYC's sake in your 30's and up? I think they were making fools of themselves.

I didn't drink for 15 years because I was Muslim, which I'm not anymore. I drink occasionally but I don't gorge myself on alcohol. I bought a 4 pack of wine coolers 2 or 3 months ago, and I still have 2 left.

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Para
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quote:
Originally posted by frogpond:
This sort of situation is even worse for someone combating alcoholism. I've heard people say that recovering from alcoholism is harder than from the most addictive drug simply because alcohol is often such a ever-present part of social life.

You know, this is something else that's bothered me. A superior of mine (who absolutely, positively cannot be fired or forced to do anything by the boss, before anyone asks) who was at this party kept running up to people with these jello drinks from the moment they were brought in. "Have one with me!" "Drink this with me!" over and over until they'd start refusing, and then they'd run off to the next person. Not walk, run.

I don't usually socialize with these people a lot. Work is the only time I see them. There are a couple of people who I'm interested in befriending, but other than that I don't really consider the work crowd part of my social circle. But apparently it's an open secret that this person with the jello fixation is an alcoholic, or at least borderline. I've since heard this repeated several times by people who don't work there, but are in this person's circle. Maybe I'll be accused of wanting to live in a bubble for this, but I'd really rather not have known this about them.

Thanks though, everyone. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who isn't drawn to an event because "There's going to be a margarita machine!" Make Icee's instead and I'm there. Offer free soda and I'm there. Give away chocolate and I'll definitely be coming. Give away money? Well obviously I show up for that. And thanks, you guys who do enjoy it, but wouldn't think of insisting someone who wasn't interested must have something wrong with them.

Maybe it's because the most alcohol I've ever had was a couple of wine coolers and a glass or two of wine with mom on one rare occasion, but the idea of drinking just doesn't do it for me. Instead of "wow, the strawberry margaritas must be REALLY good", I found myself thinking "Holy crap, ____ is really going to need the bathroom in about half an hour" more than once. [lol]

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quote:
Originally posted by Para:
Thanks though, everyone. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who isn't drawn to an event because "There's going to be a margarita machine!" Make Icee's instead and I'm there. Offer free soda and I'm there. Give away chocolate and I'll definitely be coming. Give away money? Well obviously I show up for that. And thanks, you guys who do enjoy it, but wouldn't think of insisting someone who wasn't interested must have something wrong with them.

I saw a great policy when I went to DC with my girlfriend once; there's a restaurant in Herndon, VA that offers free sodas all night to the designated driver.

How sweet a deal is that?

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I drink with my very close friends & family only. If my work had a holiday party that served liquor, I certainly wouldn't drink. It only takes one drink too many and you (generic) could end up embarassing yourself. It happened to me when I was quite a bit younger and thought that getting drunk out of my mind was the cool thing to do.

I still hear stories about one of our employees having too much to drink at a conference. One of her nicknames around the office is "Party Girl."

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quote:
Originally posted by AnglsWeHvHrdOnHiRdr:
I think that at some point in the maturation process, doing jello shots should end. The same goes for Jaeger shots as well.


I had jello shots last year for the New Year. I found them quite enjoyable.

I think that maturity has more to do with how you handle the alcohol, not what form you are consuming.

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A party that involves loud music and bad dancing can only be enjoyed when completely intoxicated. Bars have realised this. Turn the music up loud enough so no-one can talk, wait for everyone to become too drunk to care. I've never had a good time at such a place when sober. I'd rather go outside to a quiet table and chat with my friend who I've actually taken the time to come out with. I was going to post a near-identical rant a few weeks back. I don't like such nights out. Am I wierd? Would much rather spend an evening drinking coffee in a bookshop, or having a beer in a quiet bar so I can chat and play pool. Pub lunches are especially excellent. [Big Grin]

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Originally posted by AnglsWeHvHrdOnHiRdr:
I think that at some point in the maturation process, doing jello shots should end. The same goes for Jaeger shots as well.

Oh, it's the 'we don't drink Jaeger' crew... What up?
Burn the infidel Angl. Who drinks Jaeger in shots anyway? Tequila is drank in shots. Jaeger should be drank over ice. Mmm. And that's all I can remember beyond about 5pm Christmas Day. [Razz]

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I saw a great policy when I went to DC with my girlfriend once; there's a restaurant in Herndon, VA that offers free sodas all night to the designated driver.

How sweet a deal is that?

For the most part my friends understand that I don't drink much or at all and am happy to be des-driver. They show their gratitude by buying me cola and red bull all night. Though I wish more places had a policy like the above here.

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Gah, this brings flashbacks to one of the three truly evil bosses I've had in my time. Once, while lecturing me on being more sociable in the office (this from someone who regularly looked at me like I was from Neptune if she caught me trying to do my job), she said, "Look, Dave, I know you're not a very socially comfortable person-"

I stopped her there. "That's not true-"

"Oh yes, you don't like going to office parties!"

So the fact that I chose not to socialize with people who didn't like me and had nothing to speak of in common with me made me "not very socially comfortable." Can't say I've ever missed that job!

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christmas tree kitapper
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Originally posted by Amigone201:
As I've stated on this board before, I, too, am a non-drinker. Thankfully, that whole "You need to start drinking" crap has fallen by the wayside as I got older. I go out with my friends now on occasion (not terribly often) and nobody ever tries to get me to drink. I guess most people feel "live and let live, none of my business what Amigone does." I thank them for that.


What planet do you live on that as you get older people stop the whole "c'mon! try drinking" thing and is there room for me?

I went to my work's Holiday party this past week (where I distinguished myself by asking the gal next to me, who is in charge of payroll if I should know who she is. Hey, I work Graveyard shift; I can't ID most of the people at work.) and sure enough before the party I was being urged to drink, and also at the party. None of them accepted my simple "Sorry, I don't drink", they had to go on and on trying to change my mind.

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Amigone201
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Originally posted by christmas tree kitapper:
What planet do you live on that as you get older people stop the whole "c'mon! try drinking" thing and is there room for me?

Buffalo [Smile] Come on and join us up here. There's plenty of room because people keep moving away or getting murdered. Hey, where you goin...

No, seriously, it started around the end of college/beginning of law school. I can't really answer you better than that; I didn't make it happen, it just sorta did.

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Gale
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quote:
Originally posted by Amigone201:
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Originally posted by christmas tree kitapper:
What planet do you live on that as you get older people stop the whole "c'mon! try drinking" thing and is there room for me?

Buffalo [Smile] Come on and join us up here. There's plenty of room because people keep moving away or getting murdered. Hey, where you goin...

No, seriously, it started around the end of college/beginning of law school. I can't really answer you better than that; I didn't make it happen, it just sorta did.

Oh, I can answer this one. When many of your friends died of excess in their youth and many of your friends have spent time in rehab and detox and many of your friends in middle age have things like hep C or kidney or heart damage from the excesses that they'd thought they'd lived through in their youth, you stop pushing the liquor on people.

I'm a very social person, lots of friends, but I still can't imagine hanging out with people who egged someone on who didn't want to drink alcohol. When I bartended, I'd see a few people like that trying to order drinks for people who said they didn't want them. I never made them.

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Originally posted by Gale:


I'm a very social person, lots of friends, but I still can't imagine hanging out with people who egged someone on who didn't want to drink alcohol. When I bartended, I'd see a few people like that trying to order drinks for people who said they didn't want them. I never made them.

My friends don't pester me; I don't drink and they accept that. My co-workers, though...I don't get much a choice as to whether to be around them, necessarily.

Really I wouldn't have gone to the party because not only don't I drink but I don't dance, but since I have whined in the past about big social work functions being held when I don't get a chance to go to (ie early afternoon) that I figured I pretty much had to go to this one.

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I have found that since diagnosis I can get out of eating/drinking things I don't want by explaining that I am diabetic and that is not on my meal plan. One can't argue with a medical reason.

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Para
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Originally posted by Gale:Oh, I can answer this one. When many of your friends died of excess in their youth and many of your friends have spent time in rehab and detox and many of your friends in middle age have things like hep C or kidney or heart damage from the excesses that they'd thought they'd lived through in their youth, you stop pushing the liquor on people.

I'm a very social person, lots of friends, but I still can't imagine hanging out with people who egged someone on who didn't want to drink alcohol. When I bartended, I'd see a few people like that trying to order drinks for people who said they didn't want them. I never made them.

Ha.. Gale, you just made me glad all over again that I never got to know anyone in high school that well.

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ThistleSoftware
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I have been pestered to drink/ drink more on many an occasion and I find that a quiet (usually said through gritted teeth a la Barney Gumble) "No thanks, I'm the designated driver" usually gets people to back off. Maybe I am the desi, maybe I'm not, but it gives the impression that I would drink if only I wasn't such a responsible friend who'd offered to drive everyone around.

That said, being pressured to drink is super lame.

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