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Orshee
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We have new neighbors who moved in around October. On the day they bought the house, they had one of their cars parked across our driveway, blocking about 25% of the driveway entrance. I had to maneuver quite a bit to get out of my own driveway.

Ever since then, they’ve been regularly parking across our driveway, blocking at least a quarter of the entrance.

Today, a visitor, whose car I see at their house a lot, blocked a full 50% of our driveway. I have called the cops (on the non-emergency line) twice now (including today) but by the time a squad car comes by they’re usually gone – it takes about an hour for them to come by.

Right now they’re blocking another neighbor’s driveway. Sometimes they just park across the end of their own driveway.

I’d love to talk to them about it, but a) they are clearly just inconsiderate people; and b) I hate to be the bad guy, and I feel like I would be if I politely told them to knock it off without having introduced myself.

I tried to introduce myself last month – the older woman was in the backyard with her dogs – but she responded to my friendly “Hello” by quietly saying “Hi” and then turning away. (She doesn’t know I’ve called the cops on them, because they’ve never been “caught.”)

Any suggestions?

Feel free to share your own neighbor stories – I know mine is a relatively small annoyance but it’s the inconsideration that gets to me (and the question of why the hell they would do such a thing repeatedly), not just the fact that they’re illegally parking across my driveway.

Plus I'm peeved that they have replaced the best neighbor in the world, Frank, who we absolutely loved. Frank died, and we knew we'd never have a neighbor that awesome again, but this is kind of ridiculous.

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Well, that's the kind of situation that makes me wish I just had an old really beat up clunker so I could back up and somehow manage to not quite make it all the way around their car so as to put just a little scratch on it, one that would only cost them 3 or 4 thousand to fix.

That's obviously a rather problematic solution for many reasons.

I think you'll have to talk to them about it if it's going to be resolved - I would take a page from Miss Manner's and say something like, "oh dear, your car seems to be in our driveway and I'm afraid that it is going to get hit pretty soon. Is there any reason why it can't be parked someplace that it is not blocking a driveway?"

~by the way, that "is there any reason why" line is a really effective way to phrase a request when you are trying to get folks to do what you want them to. It won't work on a total assnugget or crazy person, but sometimes it works on a reasonable person who just hasn't thought things out as far as you have. ETA Say it in a pleasant manner, not snarky.

eta If things get rather nasty, is there any way to call a private tow company and have it vanished? Bet they wouldn't do that again. Might cause things to be unpleasant though.

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No offense, but calling the police before asking them politely to stop it is a very bad way to start a relationship with your neighbors.

Although it may be obvious to you that they're blocking your driveway they may have no clue they are or don't see it as a problem. That's pretty inconsiderate but not something worth possibly starting a feud over. Just try knocking on their door.

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Keep calling the cops when they block the driveway. They obviously don't care that they're being inconsiderate, but they might not be aware that it's illegal to do that. Perhaps a chat with the cops will cure this little habit of theirs. You might ask the cop to talk to them about it, even though it's still not blocking. Taking a photo will help with that, as would keeping a log (see below). You might even be able to swear out a criminal complaint. You can check with the police on that.

And if you have a HOA, you can also contact the Board. when I was secretary for our HOA, we sent a couple of letters out to homeowners who did this, reminding them that it was illegal. the HOA may even be able to sue them if they continue, seeking an injunction ordering them to stop it.

Finally, the old anonymous letter is also a possibility. Nothing rude, just a gentle reminder that what they are doing is illegal and the cops will be called if they continue.

And start keeping a log of times and license plate numbers. And have any blocked neighbors do the same. At some point, you could probably sue them for something like interfering with your enjoyment of your private property, or seek an injunction (like the HOA one), but I'm not sure about that.

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Orshee
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When they look out their front window, or walk out their front door, they can clearly see that they are blocking my driveway. There is no ambiguity here.

Yes, it's bad to call the cops - but it's bad to block someone's driveway over and over. They know what they are doing and clearly do not care whether it inconveniences anyone else.

snapdragonfly, I don't think I can legally have them towed since they're on the street. But if the cops saw them parked there, they would get towed (after being ticketed).

Jocko, the log is a good idea. I do take pictures and write down plate numbers, but I hadn't started a log yet.

No HOA here, though.

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quote:
Originally posted by Orshee:
Yes, it's bad to call the cops - but it's bad to block someone's driveway over and over. They know what they are doing and clearly do not care whether it inconveniences anyone else.

All true, but I still think you should make the effort first. For one thing, you can make a better case for police involvement if you can (honestly) say that you have tried to deal with problem directly.

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Originally posted by Lainie:
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Originally posted by Orshee:
Yes, it's bad to call the cops - but it's bad to block someone's driveway over and over. They know what they are doing and clearly do not care whether it inconveniences anyone else.

All true, but I still think you should make the effort first. For one thing, you can make a better case for police involvement if you can (honestly) say that you have tried to deal with problem directly.
I think she's right. It might not do any good, but then they'll be the assfedoras, not you.

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You mentioned that by the time the police have arrived that the car is gone. They probably are thinking that they are only going to be there a bit so that blocking your driveway for a short period of time won't bug you. You may have to be assertive and politely ask them to not block your driveway. If you don't say anything, then they may not know there is a problem. And when you talk to them you can come off as not being combative by just saying, "Hi nice to meet. My name is Bob and I was wonering if you could make sure that your car is blocking my driveway. It makes it hard to pull out and I don't wan't to damage either of our vehicles." Most of the time, people who be apologetic and will comply. They could turn into asshats, but the problem is if they start by blocking your driveway(and they are asshats) then they may start doing other things. At which point you would need to contact the police.

Good luck either way. Personally I see it as just bad manners to block someone's driveway(and I think it is illegal in many cities too).

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Agreed, Lainie - the question was what to say, and snapdragonfly has given me a very good approach. I hate confrontation so knocking on the door to do this is an unpleasant idea.

I just don't understand the mindset of people who do this.

ETA: I'm not calling 911 on these boobs. I'm calling 311, the city services line - they report it to the cops, but it's not like I have five squads rushing out each time. The cops come by when they can. If the cops do come out and ticket them, they won't know it's me who reported them.

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You 'hate to be the bad guy', but you call the cops rather than talk to them???

I'd suggest talking to them. Chances are they are just oblivious to the fact that it's causing a problem. Or they don't even know their guests are parking that way.

Regardless, I would get pissed if my neighbors called the cops or reported something without talking to me first.

Beach...it's just not very neighborly...Life!

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quote:
Originally posted by Orshee:
Yes, it's bad to call the cops - but it's bad to block someone's driveway over and over. They know what they are doing and clearly do not care whether it inconveniences anyone else.

That's true, and in any other case I would completely agree but you're going to have to live with these people near you possibly for years and it would be best to at least try to have a civil relationship with them before resorting to calling the police.
I agree that they seem like they're just a bunch of assholes, which actually makes pissing them off even more dangerous. If they're this bad by default to people they don't even know, imagine what they would do if you gave them a "reason".

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quote:
Originally posted by snapdragonfly:
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Originally posted by Lainie:
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Originally posted by Orshee:
Yes, it's bad to call the cops - but it's bad to block someone's driveway over and over. They know what they are doing and clearly do not care whether it inconveniences anyone else.

All true, but I still think you should make the effort first. For one thing, you can make a better case for police involvement if you can (honestly) say that you have tried to deal with problem directly.
I think she's right. It might not do any good, but then they'll be the assfedoras, not you.
Exactly. Take the high road. Being in a feud with neighbors is never fun, so best to try to avoid that if possible. And, if your neighbor continues to be an assfez, then call the police. At least you will have the satisfaction that you tried to resolve the matter amiably.

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snapdragonfly :
If things get rather nasty, is there any way to call a private tow company and have it vanished? Bet they wouldn't do that again. Might cause things to be unpleasant though.

Orshee :I don't think I can legally have them towed since they're on the street. But if the cops saw them parked there, they would get towed (after being ticketed).

Yes you can, at least here in California you could. Having dealt with getting back a car that was towed. Anybody can call a tow company and they can and will come and tow an illegally parked vehicle. Usually rather quickly. They make their money on people having to ransom their vehicles back or selling said vehicles if the owner does not pay the ransom. There are probably specific companies contracted to deal with vehicles in your jurisdiction, so you may need to find who they are.

If that happened once, I suspect even the most inconsiderate parker would be more careful where they park, but as mentioned it would not be very neighborly, but then blocking drive ways isn't either.

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Ok, let me reiterate - they do not and will not know that I am calling the city about this. If the cops come by when they're blocking my driveway, they will get a ticket because they are breaking the law. They won't know that I was the one who made the cops aware of that.

So I am not worried about my safety, though I appreciate the concern.

ILS - I didn't know that. I'll have to look into Minneapolis laws.

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IME, the police prefer that you try having a conversation with the neighbors first. When I finally had had enough of my neighbor's puppy coming into my yard (it was small enough to slip under my gate) and digging holes, as well as stealing my shoes, I asked them to keep their dog out of my yard. The next time it was back, I called the police and they were surprised and happy that I had already had a conversation with the neighbors about it.

I agree with Beach that it's not very neighborly to call the police first rather than talk to the neighbor, but on the flip side of that it's not very neighborly to park across someone else's driveway.

Good luck!

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We lived next door to a rental home. The 1st family that lived there jumped our chain link fence and somehow drove their motorized dirt bike up the side of our house. They were evicted when one of the son's tried to burn the house down.

Family #2 tied their dog to the door of their garage, which was next to our bedroom, I worked third shift, and that damn dog barked all day. I tried to ask them to tie the dog up behind the garage, they politely told me FU.

Family #3 had 3 little kids,and ran a daycare and a mother who screamed all day. They did tie their dog up behind the garage but never cleaned up after it, on a hot day, the stench permiated the back yard.

After that we moved!

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quote:
Originally posted by Orshee:
Ok, let me reiterate - they do not and will not know that I am calling the city about this. If the cops come by when they're blocking my driveway, they will get a ticket because they are breaking the law. They won't know that I was the one who made the cops aware of that.

They may never know for certain, sure. However, they may put two and two together and figure out that you called the cops. I mean, it wouldn't take a genius to figure it out.

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Orshee, since you said you don't care for confrontation, just leave a polite note on their door, something along the line of, "Hi, neighbor, so sorry we haven't had the chance to be formally introduced. Regretfully, however, I must tell you that you've seemed to have accidentally parked in front of my driveway a few times and I am afraid it makes it very difficult for me. Is there any reason why you can't park in front of your own driveway in the future? It would be much appreciated. Signed, Orshee"

Keep a copy of the note in case things escalate or you need to get police involved.

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When my parents moved into their house, their neighbor was pretty darn inconsiderate. How much so?

He races sprint cars for a hobby. We have a driveway, while he does not (just the two concrete strips like older houses have). One day, Dad came home from work to find our neighbor neck-deep in rebuilding a motor, on our driveway. Did he ask? Nope.

I'd go the note route first, and then escalate things from there. No sense in calling the police immediately- I've always been slow to do that.

Adding to the bad neighbor stories, though, are the people who lived across the street when I was growing up. They raised ferrets, which is fine. Got rid of those, and started raising huskies. Huskies which barked constantly. Mom never did call the cops, but one of the neighbors across the street did.

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Originally posted by nurple:
They may never know for certain, sure. However, they may put two and two together and figure out that you called the cops. I mean, it wouldn't take a genius to figure it out.

They can't figure out how to park a car.
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quote:
Originally posted by Orshee:
quote:
Originally posted by nurple:
They may never know for certain, sure. However, they may put two and two together and figure out that you called the cops. I mean, it wouldn't take a genius to figure it out.

They can't figure out how to park a car.
Well either they are blocking your driveway because they're stupid in which case, sure they may not be smart enough to figure out who called the cops. Or they are blocking your driveway because they don't give a damn about their neighbours and know full well they are doing something wrong, in which case having the cops show up at their door is not going to go over well in the "let's all just get along" department. As they will know damn well who reported them!

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I say leave a note saying that you have noticed they are blocking your driveway, no need to mention "is there a reason..." . If that doesn't work then call the police, maybe block their car til the police can get there. Or even try blocking their car with out calling the police and then they'll have to come looking for you to let them out. Take that opprotunity to point out them blocking your driveway.

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Our city has a bylaw for parking too close to the end of a driveway. There has to be a 1,5 metre clearance which for our driveway is impossible. We quite often have cars parked blocking our driveway and we won't hesitate to call it in to bylaw (the whole point is that where our driveway is, there shouldn'tbe anyone parked there - 40.00 fine if they do). Check with your city bylaw on how far a car must be parked away from the end of a driveway.

If there is such a bylaw, then print off a copy of it and drop it in their mailbox. If they still continue to block your driveway, call the cops, have them ticketed and or towed.

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quote:
Originally posted by Christie:
quote:
Originally posted by Orshee:
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Originally posted by nurple:
They may never know for certain, sure. However, they may put two and two together and figure out that you called the cops. I mean, it wouldn't take a genius to figure it out.

They can't figure out how to park a car.
Well either they are blocking your driveway because they're stupid in which case, sure they may not be smart enough to figure out who called the cops. Or they are blocking your driveway because they don't give a damn about their neighbours and know full well they are doing something wrong, in which case having the cops show up at their door is not going to go over well in the "let's all just get along" department. As they will know damn well who reported them!
Yeah, they will know. And if it happens more than once they will be certain. Even though the cops can ticket for that, it is unusal in most towns for the police to randomly patrol neighborhoods for parking offences.

Why exactly are you scared to talk to them? You might be surprised to find that they take it well or at the least that they don't take it well, but park elseware anyway.

Honestly though if you want to start a feud, calling the cops before talking to them is a good start. You might be surprised what they find to complain about with your house.

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I have no advice for you because this sounds like my neighbors. Nothing I've done has worked. I've called the cops on them for not just blocking our driveway, but actually parking IN our driveway. We've had to go over and ask them to move just so we could leave our own driveway. The person who had parked there was a person visiting them and she got all huffy and quite snotty about it. Apparently, walking twenty extra feet to park on the curb is too much for them.

They have the same length driveway as we do, and at the end of theirs (the garage part) it is double the size of ours as they have a two-car garage and we only have a single.

We have repeatedly asked them to stop parking in our driveway. I've been polite, I've been friendly. I gave up- I started calling the non-emergency number to the police and I've said, "I hate to call for this, because its so trivial..." and the officer who answered the phone said to me that "that's what we're here for". These neighbors stay up all night drinking (and who knows what else), being loud, screaming at each other, slamming doors (house and car), leaving kids unattended (toddlers even!) and basically being horrible people to live next to. They have junk in their yard- beat up old cars that don't run and literal garbage. They've gotten into a fight in the middle of the street with people across the street where police and ambulances were called.

I called the city a few times about the garbage and junk and they say there's an ordinance about it, but nothing ever gets done. I'm not the only neighbor who has called (there's nobody on the other side of them, but there are people across the street). The city people have had so many calls that they know the address as soon as you say: "I'm calling to complain about the house on OurStreet Name..." We live at the edge of the public golf course and even golfers have called. I even called the Humane Society for them leaving a puppy outside all day in the junky yard with no water or shelter in the 100+ degree heat.

A couple of months ago, I woke up at 130 AM and came downstairs to sleep on the sofa. I saw two cars in my driveway. I went outside and wrote down the license numbers and make of the vehicles and figured if they didn't leave by the time I would have normally woken up, I'd call the police. (I normally get up at 230 AM). About fifteen minutes later, I heard people outside talking loudly and laughing and so on. I took my German Shepherd outside with me (she doesn't like people) and I asked, "Hey, are these your cars?"

The two men responded that they were their cars. I said, "Could you move them please?"

And one said, "They *pointing to the neighbor's house* said it was okay to park here."

I replied: "This is MY house, not theirs, they don't make my house payments and its NOT okay to park here."

About twenty minutes later, they finally moved.

But, our neighbors don't care about their own property. They sure as hell aren't going to care about mine. I'm worried that if I confront them directly- they'll retaliate by damaging my property. Or if I somehow make my husband go confront them, they'll harm him. He's disabled and on blood thinners. All I need is for them to go ape-sh*t on him and seriously injure him or kill him. That's why I took my dog outside with me- I figured if they tried anything with me that early morning, she'd have protected me. But it isn't like I can stick her outside 24 hours a day, next to our driveway.

They still park in our driveway at night- thinking we don't know. I don't sleep through the night from health issues and I've seen them out there. Sometimes it is for a few minutes, other times they'll park at an angle and block part of my driveway. They've blocked the sidewalk (and our view for backing out) and they've parked in their yard.

On the local court website, there's a court date listed for the guy who owns the house. He's got a foreclosure notice and a hearing set for next week. So, maybe, just maybe, they'll have to move.

Wow, sorry this was so long.

ETA: They've lived here for just now three years. We've been here almost eleven years. I've only been calling the cops on them for the last year- give or take a few months.

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I think it's always best to first try to talk to them politely. They are probably more afraid of this confrontation then you are. The worst that can happen is that they don't take action; then you can escalate, but at least you tried.

At our old house, one time the neighbors (a couple of young single men) were having a loud party -- not really raucous, just a barbecue with a lot of people and music a little too loud. Well, I let it go during the day, it was July 4th, and they were usually pretty quiet, so I figured that once or twice a year they could let loose. But when it got late, and it was time to put the kids to bed, I went over there and asked them politely to turn the music down, and guess what -- they said ok, and turned the music down! Sometimes it works better just to ask first.

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Orshee
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Why exactly are you scared to talk to them?

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You might be surprised what they find to complain about with your house.

So I shouldn't be scared of them, but I'd better watch myself or they'll try to get revenge? It doesn't make sense to tell me to approach these people in a friendly way or else they will do something awful to me.

FrogFeathers, I don't know how you deal with all that. One of the few downsides of having a house is that all of your neighbors are long-term - though it looks like there's a light at the end of the tunnel where your neighbors are concerned.

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We had a problem like this with visitors to our neighbors across the street. We have a double wide drive-way, and then a half circle that connects to it, kind of a "decorative" driveway made of paving stones, but nonetheless used to park my mini-van. The problem was, visitors to our neighbors across the street would park there, right behind my van (we live on a dirt road, so there are no curbs, but still plenty of places to park other than that spot). If there were other vehicles parked in our driveway, I was blocked in, and would have to get either my parents to come out and move their vehicles so I could swing out through our driveway, or, if they were not home, move their vehcile(s), move mine, then move their's back.

A few times a note was left, nothing mean, just politely pointing out that they were blocking part of the driveway, and it was mentioned politely to the neighbors across the street (and they said they would mention it), but the same folks continued to park there. The last note left by then threatened to call the police (and a tow truck) if they contined to park there. Then we came up with a solution: we put a barricade up! Just a sawhorse with a sign that said something like "private driveway, do not block." They tried to park there anyways one day, I was outside and stood there and pointed at the sign, then my van. They got the hint I guess, and that along with the note threatening to have the police called, they never parked there again.

So, I guess what I am getting at is, could you put up some sort of barricade? Something simple that could be moved quickly for you to get in and out, but at the same time send a message to your neighbors? If you keep the barricade on your property, there should not be a problem (just keep it out of the city right-of-way by the street).

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We live across the street from a rental. Last year the "couple" that lived there fought nightly, in their driveway, between midnight and 3am. Had all kinds of different cars pulling in their driveway, beeping the horn, woman would come out of the house, go back in, come back out to car and then go back in and car would leave (gee, what could THAT have been??). Final straw was the tug-of-war with their infant. Police were called and they moved out shortly thereafter.

Now there is a woman and (we think) her son. Woman entertains in their car port and her laugh is just frightening (think fat-lady-statue's laugh from the movie "Funhouse"). When she takes off every other weekend, the kid has parties. 15-20 high schoolers drinking, fist-fighting, NFBSKing with fireworks, racing up and down our street, screaming, laughing, parking in my yard. Last time one of them knocked over my mailbox.

Cops are seriously reluctant to do anything ... must not like being pulled away from Dunkin' Donuts.

It's frustrating as hell, but you can't make enemies of your neighbors. I have fears of that kid retaliating by breaking in my house during the day and hurting my pooch!

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Orshee,

You need to try saying something first -- if it's too intimidating to talk to them directly, then leave a note, nicely worded.

I think you are much better off by assuming that they are not total asshats. It may be, as others have said, that they know they are blocking your drive, but think it will be "for just a minute" or that you'll let them know if it's a problem. That is inconsiderate -- no doubt about it. But, you might be able to resolve the whole thing by just saying "Hey, please don't park across my driveway."

That is a lot better than having an ongoing feud with the police involved. Unless you've decided that there is a drama deficit in your life?

erwins

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Orshee
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So, I guess what I am getting at is, could you put up some sort of barricade?
I like the idea a lot, but the barricade would have to go on the street, so I can't. What I wish I had was a second car so I could leave a car there 24/7 - only without blocking my own driveway. That would block the space where they're trying to park. (I don't want to put my only car out there - first of all, it would be in front of their house, and second, that's what my driveway's for.) It would be amusing to see what they'd do then - no doubt it would be creative. They'd probably just start using my driveway.

I do like the idea of writing a nice note.

erwins, I am very lucky - I do have a drama deficit lately!

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Originally posted by Fun with a 9mm:
We live across the street from a rental. Last year the "couple" that lived there [q/b]

[Confused] Why the quotation marks? Did you think they were just pretending to be a couple?

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[qb]Cops are seriously reluctant to do anything ... must not like being pulled away from Dunkin' Donuts.

Because, of course, if they're not responding to your calls about your neighbors, the only possible explanation is that they're sitting around eating doughnuts. Since, apparently, the rest of their jurisdiction is a paradise and there are no other crimes or problems for them to address. [Roll Eyes]

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Buy a wheel clamp. Then lose the key. A couple of hours with a hacksaw should teach them a lesson. [Smile]

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Our city has a bylaw for parking too close to the end of a driveway. There has to be a 1,5 metre clearance which for our driveway is impossible. We quite often have cars parked blocking our driveway and we won't hesitate to call it in to bylaw (the whole point is that where our driveway is, there shouldn'tbe anyone parked there - 40.00 fine if they do). Check with your city bylaw on how far a car must be parked away from the end of a driveway.

If there is such a bylaw, then print off a copy of it and drop it in their mailbox. If they still continue to block your driveway, call the cops, have them ticketed and or towed.

I don't know how Canada is, but in the US, it's illegal to put things into mailboxes if it isn't actually mail. Otherwise, I agree with nda, but I'd put the note under the windshield wiper of the offending car. Actually, no, I would knock on the door and ask (nicely - as if they're doing me a favor) if they can move the car because I wouldn't want to accidentally damage it while trying to pull out of my own driveway. Even if I'm not going to be going anywhere. But if you don't want to talk to them, then go the note route.

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Originally posted by niner domestic actual:
Our city has a bylaw for parking too close to the end of a driveway. There has to be a 1,5 metre clearance which for our driveway is impossible. We quite often have cars parked blocking our driveway and we won't hesitate to call it in to bylaw (the whole point is that where our driveway is, there shouldn'tbe anyone parked there - 40.00 fine if they do). Check with your city bylaw on how far a car must be parked away from the end of a driveway.

If there is such a bylaw, then print off a copy of it and drop it in their mailbox. If they still continue to block your driveway, call the cops, have them ticketed and or towed.

I don't know how Canada is, but in the US, it's illegal to put things into mailboxes if it isn't actually mail. Otherwise, I agree with nda, but I'd put the note under the windshield wiper of the offending car. Actually, no, I would knock on the door and ask (nicely - as if they're doing me a favor) if they can move the car because I wouldn't want to accidentally damage it while trying to pull out of my own driveway. Even if I'm not going to be going anywhere. But if you don't want to talk to them, then go the note route.
Yeah, that's a good way to put it.

The note is less hostile than calling the police, but not as friendly as talking to them face to face. There is respect issue here too as some might find it difficult to find much respect for someone who is apparently two afraid to talk to them face to face.

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