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Erotic talk with a virtual partner in chatrooms on the Internet are enough grounds for a spouse to file for divorce, a legal magazine said, citing a recent ruling in Belgium.
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So will the left. We have no-fault divorce in all 50 states now, don't we? We don't need grounds.
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Darn straight they'll cry foul! When did Belgium become a part of the U.S., anyway? Posts: 236 | From: Iowa | Registered: Sep 2005
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Leaving the question aside of legal grounds for divorce...
Would you break up with your SO if he or she was engaging in this behavior? Would it matter whether they were doing it behind your back, or being open about it? Would the nature of the chat matter? (e.g., if it were "normal" sex, or some kinky fantasy, or something you consider truly disturbing?) What if your husband or boyfriend were chatting with a "hot 19-year old blonde chick" who he and you knew was really a balding, overweight 45-year-old guy?
On the other side...does anyone want to admit actually meeting their SO, not just online, but through adult "hot chat"? Or having a relationship break up over it?
quote:Originally posted by Echinodermata Q. Taft: Leaving the question aside of legal grounds for divorce...
Would you break up with your SO if he or she was engaging in this behavior? Would it matter whether they were doing it behind your back, or being open about it? Would the nature of the chat matter? (e.g., if it were "normal" sex, or some kinky fantasy, or something you consider truly disturbing?) What if your husband or boyfriend were chatting with a "hot 19-year old blonde chick" who he and you knew was really a balding, overweight 45-year-old guy?
On the other side...does anyone want to admit actually meeting their SO, not just online, but through adult "hot chat"? Or having a relationship break up over it?
I wouldn't necassarily break up with my SO for doing it, but I would treat it seriously. It wouldn't be as bad (to me) as RL cheating, but it would be close.
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Unfortunately, I have been there. My fiance met a young lady on the internet (yes it was a 19 year old girl too.) 2 months after we started dating. He had sex chats with her, she sent him naked pictures and her phone number. He was actually seriously considering going and meeting her (she lived about 4 hours away from us). The only reason I didn't leave him was because he came clean on his own, and apologized for doing it. We had been together 6 months when he told me all about it. I did break up with him for awhile. Eventually, we began seeing each other again, and he sold his computer. LOL He won't even hardly get online now. I told him this was his one shot, if he does it again, or goes out and cheats on me with someone, I'm gone. It sucks.
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quote:Originally posted by spankmantha: The only reason I didn't leave him was because he came clean on his own, and apologized for doing it. [...] I did break up with him for awhile. Eventually, we began seeing each other again, and he sold his computer. LOL [...] I told him this was his one shot, if he does it again, or goes out and cheats on me with someone, I'm gone. It sucks.
It does suck, but it's cool that he came to you with it (which seems unusual), and I think you handled it wisely. Those situations are confusing because they are emotional, not physical, but it's still going outside a relationship for something you should only be getting within it.
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quote: It does suck, but it's cool that he came to you with it (which seems unusual), and I think you handled it wisely. Those situations are confusing because they are emotional, not physical, but it's still going outside a relationship for something you should only be getting within it.
Your absolutely right. It was completely emotional, and thats why I seperated from him for a little while so I could sort out those emotions. It did make me respect him, even if I felt like punching him in the balls when he told me. Does that make sense? I do think he wouldn't do it again, simply because he saw how bad it hurt me. He has been very good to me over the last 7 years though. After that happened, it was like it made both of us view each other in a different light. So, in a way, I think it kinda made our relationship stronger.
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I think your "I respect you AND want to hurt you" was perfectly reasonable, given the circumstances, and I'd of felt exactly the same. And in some ways, I'd almost trust him more for some reason, maybe because he let you know that you were more important to him than his pride or his cyber-floozy.
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Does that make sense? I do think he wouldn't do it again, simply because he saw how bad it hurt me. He has been very good to me over the last 7 years though. After that happened, it was like it made both of us view each other in a different light. So, in a way, I think it kinda made our relationship stronger.![[Wink]](wink.gif)
And in some ways, I'd almost trust him more for some reason, maybe because he let you know that you were more important to him than his pride or his cyber-floozy.
